Oct 1, 2011


I seriously hate pregnancy forums.  I hate when I fall into the trap of answering a question and then get pounced on by some miserable pregnant woman.  It is just so sad to me that we all cannot just respect each other’s opinion and support each other.  I honestly can say in my case that pregnancy forums hurt me more than they help me.

I sometimes will go to Baby Zone or What to Expect… to read about what kind of fruit my baby is this week or read a product review.  I also will read a quick list of posts and inevitably think, oh I can help her!  Lo-and-behold I leave my comment and then get beaten up for my answer/opinion/support by a Know-it-all. In my pursuit of fairness and love I will read a nasty comment to a teenage mom or girl asking a simple question, and loose my shit and stand up for her. I really know better at this point but I cannot help myself.  But, to think this girl just wants to ask a question that was apparently already asked a month ago and gets treated like an idiot for asking, is sad. What happen to "there are no stupid questions?" 

Thanks to those evil preggies, I am afraid to ask any questions.  I've realized it’s just so much easier and less stressful to google or call my friends and family.  I feel so bad for the women who depend on the forums for answers and all they get is opinionated, know-it-all, friendless, nasty, overly emotional pregs!  Clearly I am one right now, but I am not attacking any one person by name like I see happen on those forums, or calling out a young girl for getting pregnant out of wedlock and financial stability. WHO ARE WE TO JUDGE??? 

I write about this awesome Pregnancy Sisterhood and two days later I write this… sad.  I still believe in the face-to-face communal sisterhood, hopefully that will never change. I said it before and I will say it again, If you do not have something nice to say please don’t say anything at all, because a pregnant woman’s emotions are so fragile and your nasty words will break them down.  Peace and Patience be with all of us!

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  1. Amen! I asked about stretch marks and got an ear full about how tired they were of the post. That's how I found your site. Thanks for writing this. I don't feel like shit anymore!

  2. I don't even bother with the forums, it's too depressing and I already have enough trouble with that as it is. Thank you for posting helpful information in a non-hostile, non-judging atmosphere.