Aug 13, 2011

I'm very thankful for my Baby. Not my pregnancy symptoms!

It has been brought to my attention by the "know-it-alls," the awesome women on forums who know way better than I do about EVERYTHING, that perhaps complaining about being pregnant is a mortal sin. Apparently, I just need to “suck it up” and stop focusing on the bad aspects of pregnancy. I should only focus on and write about how lucky I am to be pregnant, married, healthy, financially stable enough to feed me and my baby, employed... FYI I do! I thank God all the time and pray I continue to be so blessed.

Forgive me if I do not focus on those things when my head’s in the toilet, or I’m fighting indigestion, or having gnarly back pain, or trying to get through a day on 3 hours of sleep because the second I finally get comfortable and fall asleep I have to pee again, or hiding in the cosmetic section of the grocery store while my husband finishes shopping because the sight of all that food is nauseating, or when my placenta feels like it's trying to stretch around a bowling ball then carry it around…

I know I could sit quietly in discomfort but that's not me and “sucking it up” doesn't make me feel any better. But, bitching sure does!!!! The number of “Thank You’s,” and “You took the words right out of my mouth’s!” I receive daily is a testament to the number of women who google “tired of being pregnant” everyday.  That doesn’t insinuate we hate the blessing we have been given, or that we hate our pregnancy 100% of the time, it just means at that moment we feel tired of being pregnant.

Just because I am open about my feelings during this pregnancy does not make me less of a person or mother for that matter! I don't drink alcohol, do drugs, eat the "no-no" foods that I love or partake in activities that would put my angel or me at risk. I think that makes me the best mom I can be right now!  I use this blog as an avenue to let off steam and have a laugh, another highly recommended activity by my doctor.

I was so upset when I told my mom about the know-it-alls and she said “oh honey maybe you should stop writing.  What if someone holds it against you later?” Then I thought, who would hold it against me and for what??  I love my baby, I’m just tired of my pregnancy, SO FAR!! Did I miss where that was against the law?

I think it's hypocritical that the know-it-alls feel they have the right to voice their opinion and bitch at me, then tell me I don't have the right to bitch about my own pregnancy.  I'm no martyr nor do I plan to be. If you don't like it, don't read it. Just like when you leave nasty comments I don't post them! 
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Pregnancy is CRAZY, the symptoms, emotions and experiences are worth writing about, good or bad. 



P.s. While I’m in a fit of hormone charged rage… To the same know-it-alls who attack my blog and innocent people in forums, GET STUFFED!!!  It’s really hard to be pregnant for some of us and getting verbally beaten up for a simple question or thought is just plain upsetting.  If you don’t have anything nice to say... DON’T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL!!!! 




Two confused parents=One amused baby Hopelessly we are trying raise a baby who is clearly smarter than both of us. April is an award-winning writer and blogger. Her work has been published in over ten countries and four languages. From books to newspapers, to print/online magazines and everything in between, you can find her work. For more on April, Visit AprilMcCormick.com

7 comments:

  1. Standing up and applauding you!!!
    Well actually lying in bed a bit teary eyed! This part of being a women is the worst why do we have to be-little each other. My hubby is in the Royal Air force and we live on base with hunderds of families and wives going throught the same thing, and instead of supporting each other, some choose to gossip and critise each other. I can now truely say each pregnancy is different, and if your one of those that have a perfect pregnancy enjoy and more power to you. However if like some of us you would rather hibernate for 9 months, there nothing wrong with that either. Its just another thing in your life to show you how strong you are.

    I love this blog, it has made me laugh and cry and i'm so thankful to know i'm not the only one.

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  2. I love your blog! It has gotten me through some tough moments when I felt like I just couldn't do it (be pregnant) anymore. There were times early on when I thought I didn't want to be pregnant even though my whole life I've wanted a child and planned this pregnancy. I'm sure there will be a few more moments before it's all said and done and I will have your blog to see me through. So keep on writing and tell your mom "Haters gonna hate." I've heard that's how you know you're on the right track.

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  3. Hahahaha- you must be on the same boards I am- ugh!!! Drama- can't a girl just vent??? Love it!

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  4. I never thought I could get pregnant. In fact, I was told I couldn't. So imagine my surprise when, the same month I told my doctor I was ready to schedule my hysterectomy, I found out I was going to have a baby. I can't begin to tell you how happy and thankful I am! And yet...
    There have been so many times during the last 8 months that I have broken down in tears because I have felt SO terrible. Morning sickness lasted all day for me. There was no way to tame my indigestion. My SI joint seized up and my hips started dislocating randomly due to that lovely hormone, "relaxin". Yeah. I didn't find that name too funny. The fact is, being pregnant isn't easy!!! Why is it that some women insist that we suffer in silence? Voicing discomfort isn't the same thing as saying that you don't want or love your child. Far from it, in my opinion! Keeping all those thoughts and stressors bottled up inside... THAT is what is harmful to your baby.
    Keep writing. You're helping yourself get through every day by doing so. You're helping your baby by releasing your frustrations and finding a way to laugh about all the hell the little bugger is causing. ;-) And you're helping all of the other pregnant women out there who are TIRED of being pregnant... but already love their baby more than they ever dreamed possible.

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  5. Good for you! I have found your blog to be both hilarious and comforting. Thank you for posting!

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  6. I'm with the previous poster "haters gonna hate". Giving those women a voice who have a F pregnancy makes you a martyr. I have two friends that were or are recently pregnant and they both had a great pregnancy and I want to eat their friggin heads off. This blog is for the others. Thank you and take a bow.

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    1. Thank you! And now that I have delivered I will take that bow! Congratulations to you!

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