I'm Pregnant and I hate my husband

That's it! I am putting my husbands fat diarrhea mouth on mute until he can stop pissing me off! I refuse to hear another word that comes out of his mouth until he learns to stop being so annoying. I don't know what has happened, but overnight he has turned into a stinky, loud, annoying pig. Doesn't he know I need a comfortable peaceful environment to grow our baby? If he keeps up his piggy behavior it's going to be nothing but freaking hostile!

Of course... I do love my husband very much.  BUT!!! Since I have been pregnant I have stayed seriously pissed off at his simple-minded-annoying-manness!  It never fails, when I am finally ready to forgive his stupidity he pulls off another act of stupidity!  I swear he breathes differently now, he takes nothing but big deep annoying breaths.

Thanks to the hormones my fuse is considerably shorter than before baby.  Admittedly, it does not take much for me to fly off the pregnancy handle. Still, he should be thanking his lucky effing stars it's not his ass that's doubling in size everyday, even though he is on his knees worshiping the porcelain God all damn day! My annoying shithead husband has no idea what it's like to grow a human. If he has any effing sense in his simple mind, he will shut up and put up!

 Here is an example of a normal conversation in my house...
ME: "I want to order the movie 9 months. It's supposed to be fun for a pregnant couple!"
Stupid ass husband: "Oh come on! You cannot want to watch that crap movie? No way it's stupid."

Then, he finds out that the local movie theater is having a midnight showing of the movie Tron and he pre-orders tickets for US!!  Really??  That stupid Shithead thinks I want to stay up and watch a ridiculous loud crappy man movie?  This, ladies, is what my dumb ass married!!

With 27 weeks to go... my fuse better start growing and/or my husband better stay in the corner and learn to live to please me!  Friends and family who have done this pregnancy thing before promise it's completely normal to start hating him. They also promise he will stop being such an annoying shit sooner than later. Either he will learn to walk on eggshells, or I will stop wanting to "hurt the one I love the most," and something about, "Misery loves company." Blah blah blah... It's not my fault he's annoying and making me more miserable.  Everyone insists it gets better. Well, 3 months and a week of pregnancy and clearly we are not there yet.

All I have to say is he better watch out, or he will be changing his address to a tent in the back yard!


UPDATE: 2013

That's me (April) and Ollie on NYE 2012.
That's right ladies, you will have a life again,
it will just be with a baby strapped to you!




I have been writing away on my parenting blog First Time Mom & Dad.   And hope you will come visit me there when you finally pop!

Oh, and Me and the hubs... still happily together! 







138 comments:

  1. I thought I was the only one. My husband makes me so mad. He just does not get it. I am so sick and tired and cramping annd he just thinks its business as usual. Thanks you so much for this blog. I read it everyday!!!

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  2. My fuse is still MUCH shorter than it was before pregnancy, but considerably better than the first four months or so. He'll learn. :-)

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  3. May I enquire if the screening of TRON was the special edition in which they re-mastered the original and added several extra scenes?

    If this is the case then your husband is quite correct! I would prefer to rub broken glass into my eyeballs than to watch 5 minutes of Hugh Grant and Jeff Goldblum poncing about!

    As you clearly state...the pregnancy MUST be affecting your normal train of thought.

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    1. AnonymousJuly 08, 2013

      Dude. No Hollywood movies out are any good and we all know this. They are ALL propaganda pieces. The point was the TOPIC was appropriate. I mean, Transformers made all this money off stupid kids and I fall asleep in the first 5 minutes.

      Men who are big enough boys to be Daddy Daddy Family Man King of His Castle? Watch what pregnant mom wants to watch. End of.

      -Truthful Nacho

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  4. Dammit!!! Honey... My sweet soon to be sleeping in the back yard in a tent husband... My site is not a toy!! How many times do I have to tell you to stop playing on here and not that there was a chance in hell I was going to TRON now I'll never ever go and Get the glass b/c it's movie night!!!

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  5. Normally I don't post his comments. But, in this case I thought I had to to prove my point. This is what I have to deal with! I'm sure he lives to piss me off sometimes.

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  6. hahahaha- I'm so sorry, but this is awesome! Shall we bring up that football season just started? My lovely husband decided to walk into the room, not say a word- oblivious to the fact that I was watching something- and sit down to flip to the pre-season football game. I believe I felt like my head was going to spin and eyes pop out- like a cartoon... Simpletons... ;)

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  7. Bwahaha. This is all to familiar. I spent a month with a bleeding stomach, unable to eat anything more than saltines, ginger ale, ice, and a really good day a little trail mix. I dropped 15lbs in 6 weeks, slept 14 hours a day, and was constantly exhausted and useless for anything. I hated pregnancy, hated my husband was about ready to kill the prenatal care coordinator. Finally dragged myself to the ER the way the OB/Gyn told me to.

    Some medicine and three days of food later the whole world looks different, being pregnant is great, and the fatigue just vanished. Oh and apparently my husband is not a completely worthless human being ;)

    I hope you feel better soon. It really makes all the difference.

    (I'm still only 9 weeks pregnant but if you can't keep food or water down I recommend getting something from the Dr before becoming anemic and getting a bladder infection. Hopefully I'm the only one dumb enough to wait a month.)

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  8. I actually like the movie Nine Months. I have already watched it once. I think its a movie that PG women like to watch.

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    1. i want to see it

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    2. It's utter shit!

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  9. I am 13 weeks and I couldn't have put it better myself. Thanks for making me laugh when I am so freakin frustrated. I hope these hormones subside or I may have to move into another room. BTW, I think they do breathe differently when their wives are pregnant (they smell too). When we have sex I have to breathe through my mouth so I don't vomit all over myself!

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    1. OMG. I am so glad I am not the only one. Not only can I not stand his smell or the way he breathes but everything he says, his voice, the way he eats, EVERYTHING irritates me. I am only 7 weeks along and dont want to tell many people I am pregnant yet so I am glad to have some online pals who understand. I thought maybe I just lost my mind.

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  10. I am so glad I could make you laugh, I know that frustration. Here is the good news... for the most part I don't hate my husband anymore! In fact- I love him lots again! I'm 23 weeks now and we get along very well again... don't get me wrong I still have to yell at him from time to time to remind him that I am carrying his child and it is not easy!

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  11. This was funny to read from an outside perspective....i'm sure being in the situation was not fun though. Coming from a mans side of the story as i have my secound child on the way. Its a very confusing time to be a man when your wife is pregnant. One minute your trying to give your wife a massage and think your getting major brownie points....next minute your sleeping on the couch wondering what the hell just happened. Its an emotional roller coaster and at times hard not to take her hormonal outburst personally. I try very hard to make things pleasant for her but i must admit i do need breaks to keep my cool.

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    1. AnonymousJune 13, 2013

      When does it get easier? My fiancee is at 7 weeks. Ive been using unscented bodywash, getting her daughters away when shes due to hulk out, sleeping on the couch, breathing as silently as possible, and leaving the house to use public restrooms, and I will still get yelled at. Some pretty cold threats have came out of her mouth lately too. I think the more accomidating I am, the more mad she gets too. Not the normal slacker and I have the greatest of sympathy for what shes going through, but I would love to get my soon to be wife, if she doesnt break up or kill me first, back.

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    2. AnonymousJuly 13, 2014

      When you start worshipping her and her alone as the life-carrying goddess she is.

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  12. God Bless you and your wife, MR. Anonymous. I have to admit I thought you might have been my husband. The third trimester has caused chaos in my house. My heart goes out to you. So much so that i realize that it's time I writre a blog to the expecting fathers... I'll have it up for tomorrow. For now I can tell you to have faith and patience, this too shall pass...

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  13. I love this site!! My husband thinks I verbally abuse him because he works 5 hours away. So when I complain that Im sick and throwing up it is just an "excuse" and he is tired of hearing me bitch. So now he just texts me instead of calling. He's an asshole. Has no clue of what is going on in my body, wont give up caffine, beer and gets to wake up everyday feeling great.

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  14. Just found this site and totally grateful. Thinking I need to start a pregnancy blog for infertiles who finally got preggo only to realize their husband is a jerk. Sometimes. This past week in particular.

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  15. You would be astounded by how many women find my blog by googling. "I'm Pregnant and hate my husband"I certainly have felt that way over the last 9 1/2 months! I hope it gets better for you... I did for me!

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    1. Thank goodness... I am grateful to hear that there may be a light at the end of the tunnel. My fiance lives and works across the country and I'm somewhat okay with it. Even though he is doing this to support our family (my little girl, our dog and our little one in the oven). I crazily still feel abandoned and resentful this wasn't planned. Now I'm super-sensitive towards misogyny and how disgusting men can be. I hope this goes away before I ruin everything for all of us!

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  16. Ladies this is my 3rd pregnancy and it has been the same with all three of them. I have threaten to divorce before and I this time I actually sent him and the kids to his parents for the weekend (he somehow found his way back home the same night lol but at least the kids were gone for the weekend). It always gets better after pregnancy, but 40 weeks is a long time to be annoyed by someone who you loved so much to make a baby with :-) its almost over

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  17. Oh my goodness. I too googled "pregnant and I hate my spouse". I just read this whole thread and laughed my butt off. I'm curious to know if Tiredofbeingpregnant continued to feel better about her spouse.

    My fiance is actually wonderful. He does everything right. He cooks, he cleans, he takes me to dinner, he lights candles, he give me butt rubs, neck rubs, anything I ask.

    BUT... I can't stand him. If he remained silent everything would be fine. But everytime he opens his mouth, something STUPID comes out. I despise him. I wonder how I ever got myself into this mess. I find it reassuring that a lot of other pregnant women are feeling the same. But for now I'm so disconnected from him, I do not want him to kiss me, much less the other things he would like "to do" to me. I do not feel that we are friends at this point and he is so focused on his actions to try and make me happy that he doesn't understand that the crap he's been saying all day has me so infuriated with him that I can't even look at him.

    And I would so love to sleep until this whole thing is over with. I'm only 20 weeks and I've been feeling like this since at least week 10 if not sooner. It's taken me some time to figure out, but I think a lot of it is that I'm not able to have a good time. I'm stuck at home mostly, tired and unmotivated to leave the house. I'm so unhappy, that my tolerance for his stupid ass is nill. I've started a planner today, trying to plan to see some people and get to the beach etc. (here in FL we can do that in Feb.). So hopefully it gets better soon because I have considered breaking the engagement and getting a more intelligent room mate to share the living expenses. -Miserable and Pregnant.

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  18. Oh anonymous! Yes it does get better with your spouse, but it is touch and go at first. Just wait until week 20-24, everything goes back to normal... Meaning you will have plenty of energy and both of you will find security in each other...

    You can do it my friend!! Once you deliver and see the perfection you both made, life will
    Ngtv

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  19. It's me again, Miserable and Pregnant. Some good news, we are approaching week 22 and the fiance is not any less stupid, but he is more tolerable. I lost my job a little over a week ago and it was a dreadful job anyway, I was overjoyed to have lost it! I am getting a bit bored, but I feel like it has had a great effect on my mood. I don't feel like I will need to work until after the baby is born, but it would be nice to have SOMETHING important to do everyday. My biggest complaint at the moment, sitting is uncomfortable, laying down isn't too bad - YET. We'll be shopping for a recliner tomorrow. That's exciting. Still wish I could sleep until this is over with.

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    1. Hiya Christine!

      LMBO! sorry but "I wish I could sleep until this is over with" was my catch phrase! You are at week 22 now, big yay! Have patience grasshopper you are almost to the sweetspot. Soon you will have energy and believe it or not you probably will even enjoy pregnancy for a few weeks- I think I got maybe 6 weeks of bliss! And the recliner will be your best friend. All you need now is earplugs and then honey will be lovely too! All the bedtvto you and please keep me posted!

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  20. Pregnant girlfriend's mood swings are killing me, her mood swings are so bad! Two nights ago she was so mad at me she told me not to talk to her, and she was leaving me forever. But this emotional roller-coaster is driving me nuts.

    How do I cope with this as a caring boyfriend? How do I not take the things she says so personally when she is having a mood swing?

    Should I just leave the room, or go work in the garage for a while when she starts this?

    But I don't take criticism very well, and it's really hard for me not to take these outbursts personally and get all offended and hurt by them.

    Is there a secret trick? I can't be the first whose had to deal with this. Any other answers?

    To clarify, she is not a bad person. I do whant marry her, afterall. lol

    She is very loving and a good GF to me. Not to mention beautiful. And she does do many things me. And to be honest, as weird as it is, I don't mind it and she hates it, so it works out.

    Anyway, my point, is that normally she isn't a monster. She does get emotional even with just PMS, but it's worse since she's been pregnant. But it's really worse just in the last couple of weeks.

    She is spoiled a tiny bit, but that's ok. I like spoiling her. And leaving her is not an option. I don't believe leaving her. Even before the baby was here, leaving her was not an option, but especially now.

    Oh, and her job is extremely emotionally stressful. She work for a doctor. So she gets her heart broken daily at work. But she is good at what she does, which is one reason I know she will be a wonderful mother

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    1. Sorry mr anonymous. But that
      "Monster" like attitude is probably going to stick around for a while. The second trimester is not so bad so hopefully she will go easy on you then. And I hate to tell you this, but 3 months postpartum are usually bad too. Growing a human is not easy on her body or psyche! Remember we hurt the ones we love the most...

      Now for how you can cope... there is the over the top method... See my post called "daddy dos and donts" or just always keep in mind that she loves you, she is carrying your child, her hormones are raging and her body is aching. Not to mention she has had to change her entire lifestyle and diet to accommodate the new baby. You have not had to make so many changes. You will need to develop a sort of keen sense of selective hearing, try to only hear and process the good and throw out the bad. Don't take it personally, it's more like you are in the wrong place at the wrong time... Unless you have been naughty and deserve her wrath! > : 0

      I promise, this too shall pass! Before you know it you will have your beautiful GF/Wife back, along with a beautiful little baby. Congratulations!!! It will all be over before you know it...

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    2. thank you very much for your quick responds and i will take your advise.
      thank you

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  21. one more think, she si talking to me a little but she went to the doctor already and she does not want to talk about it. I ask her if we can talk, she told me not yet. this is normal right?

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  22. There is no such thing as normalcy in pregnancy! Sorry, mate. While you should never push her, in this situation you are the father and understandably so, should want to know what is going on. In a soft and kind way try to let her know you are concerned and at least want to know she and the baby are ok.

    I can only imagine how frustrated and helpless you must feel... Again, this will pass and all will be well soon.

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  23. I’m not trying to push her, I just want to know she and the baby are doing ok. I will keep calm and wait, we your comments now I know this will past.
    Thank you again for your great comments, this is helping me out a lot.

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  24. I want to scream all the time. I am on bed rest and if I am laying bed for more then an hour or two, he starts in on me, how long are you going to sleep or lay in bed. He does seem to care I am a high risk pregnant woman carrying his unborn child. I have SPD, he does not seem to care about how much pain I am in. All he wants to do is drink and say smart ass stuff to me. I only have 3 weeks before they do my c section, and I finally quit talking to him. I already told him if he is drinking when I go in to do the c section or if I go in to labor, He will not be there for the birth. I hate the way he treats me.

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  25. Shit! I'm so sorry to hear that. You have enough going on to compound it with an inconsiderate husband. Instead of giving you advice that is so much easier said than done... I'll give you a warning... My husband was inconsiderate and a total shit at times during my pregnancy, as I'm due you can tell. I would yell at him and some times scream and once even through a cup of water at him! Now here's the warning part: after I delivered I am completely incapable of putting up with his shit. I either cry or scream, nothing in between. I also protect my son better than the entire secret service protects the President. It sounds to me like your husband has three weeks to dry up or all hell is going to break loose! Trust me it's tough, unfortunate when you are trying to care for a new born and keep your sanity. But, you know my saying... This too shall pass, and momma it WILL! You will see that once you are a new mom your baby is number one, you are number two and your husband is effed if he doesn't shape up. Promise! All the very best to you! XX

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  26. It's me again - Miserable and pregnant - Christine.

    LMBO - 'your husband is effed if he doesn't shape up!' I love this site and I love the new one too.

    Went to the Dr. today, almost 25 weeks. They gave me two sonos too early, and so they won’t give me a third. I still don’t know the sex of the baby. I was so angry. I haven’t even tried to pick out a name because I don’t want to pick out two names. I don’t want shower gifts to all be yellow and green to stay neutral. I don’t want to be surprised. I can’t seem to envision the future without knowing the sex of the baby.

    I also had to talk to a different doctor who was young and thin and in some kind of training and she kept saying “You’re having a rough time of it aren’t you?” I wanted to strangle her. She also thought she would tell me that sugary drinks pack on the pounds. Really? Do I look like a retard? I’ll drink sweet tea and coke if I damn well please! Everything else has been taken from me. I haven’t gained much weight and I don’t have far to go, so lay off! My regular Dr. recognizes that I am intelligent and would never say such a thing to me. It's not like I've living on soda pop! And I drank it before I got pregnant and managed my weight! So there!

    My mother made me feel better. There is a place called Meet The Baby where they do a 3d and 4d sono to determine the sex of the baby and so you can see your baby’s face. The lowest package is $79 which doesn’t seem too bad. It’s a weird set up, there’s a big projector in the room and sectional couch to seat 8 so you can invite the whole family if you wish. Don’t think I’ll be doing that. And we’re going to wait until the 28-30 week mark to do it. Something about the amount of fat on the baby and fluid in the womb enabling the best pictures.

    Finally getting a recliner tomorrow. Thank god. My couch is soooo uncomfortable. My back is aching from sitting here as I type. I’m excited about that.

    Completed two puzzles last week, yeah my life is exciting. And my Sims Social house is coming along quite nicely. Wow….

    Hang in there ladies. I know it sucks, but you know what, I’m feeling a little more enthusiastic as each week goes by, and we need to remind ourselves that as much as we want this over with, the worst is yet to come…. so enjoy it while it lasts. I know. Hard to do that. Very hard.

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  27. I LOVE HEARING FROM YOU!!! We would have been a great team preganant together... I have no doubt we would have made the 6 o'clock news at least once!

    I hope you don't mind, but I am reposting your comment as a blog post. it is soooo wonderful!! I mean, it's just quintessential 25 weeks pregnant.

    Also I managed to get an extra scan at 32 weeks by telling the doctor I wasn't feeling Ollie move so much anymore. It's worth a try if you don't want to pay for the 3d 4d. I kind of regret not doing it with Oliver, but I was told since he was breech it would n ot have come out well anyway.

    Good Luck, and please Please please, keep me poted!

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  28. I found this blog after a terrible morning.

    It has been a very complicated pregnancy so far I had a lot of bleeding in the first trimester and twice thought I was having a miscarriage. I am in my 16th week and with being sick I am throwing up a lot. I have been throwing up all morning while my husband sits at his computer reading some sports blog and then takes his shower, not really saying anything to me at all, I manage to make my son breakfast, and not the birthday cake he keeps begging for. My husband finishes his shower and my son asked him for cake and husband looks at me like I am the crazy one and say let him have cake. Really? Really? I married this caveman? No you cannot have cake for breakfast. I finally have my son settled on the couch with a decent breakfast watching tv (I only give it to him in the morning). I am still throwing up, it is my turn for a shower and a few, very few, precious moments to myself. I take my shower, get ready to brush my teeth for the first time which usually makes me gag, and my husband has walked my son back to the bathroom saying he's leaving. It has literally been less than 15 minutes- I don't get long showers any more. I tell him, like he could have not noticed or heard me throwing up all morning but he is a self-absorbed idiot, 'can I just brush my teeth?', as it is likely to make at least gag if not vomit-he knows this. Well at this point my son is already on his stool hanging over the sink and not leaving. Well I start to throw up and tell my son, loudly and in a panic 'move away from the sink.' He's a toddler and of course he doesn't listen so I say it again and run away to the other bathroom as my husband is yelling at me to not yell at my son.
    So to wrap up the awful morning my husband feels the need as he is leaving to tell me 'if you have been gone for 20 minutes taking a shower, maybe you should wait to brush your teeth.' Yes that is what he said, I could not believe it! What a jerk! I told him I had already been throwing up all morning and had not brushed my teeth.' and quite frankly thought I would be better off doing without an audience. I don't think it is unreasonable to want to get the enamel-rotting acid off my teeth. I had already waited all morning to do so.

    My toddler has been sick and has graciously shared with me. Neither of us can seem to get over it which means my little guy has not left my side and has been attached to me for at least the last three weeks now. My husband thinks it's ok to not say a word to me. Leaves for the gym in the morning without telling me. Knowing I stay longer in bed with my son so he can 'work,' which I am now even more convinced he is just reading about any and every New England sports team on his 'work computer.' He acts like it's unreasonable for him to tell me if he is leaving the house. I work 3 hours in the evening and have been able, with a lot of effort to hold onto a hirer management level job and stay home during the day with my son who is 2 and a half. My husband acts like he has made the ultimate sacrifice by having to hang out with his son while watching whatever sports happens to be on the tv or computer. If I am home my son is my responsibility-my husband literally checks out. He routinely gives me a hardtime about my sons lack of play dates, despite my taking my son to nature centers, music education, just in general fun and educational adventures. My son is incredibly social and very well adjusted. Hoping my work will be as understanding with #2.

    Not sure I, or my marriage, am going to survive this pregnancy. At this point, I am not sure I even liked him before getting pregnant.


    ~Typing Through Tears

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  29. I swear, it's like he actually wants me to punch him square in the face. I asked him that very question today - "do you want me to hurt your face?" - He looked very hurt (unsurprisingly!). I've never punched anybody in my life, but it's basically all I think of throughout my days now. I think of how good it would feel to see the shock on his tiny, little face and whether it would put a stop to that incessant heavy, loud breathing he's decided to introduce to our/my life. I suspect it could make a difference....... The more he tries to help, the more I plot a murder. It's completely uncalled for and fantastically irrational, but I cannot keep a grip on my emotions! This is my third pregnancy and although I'm sure I've thought of ways to really hurt him in previous pregnancies, I'm not so sure it's gone on so long before - I'm 36 weeks and still with a strong sense of hatred running through my Veins. I clearly love the man dearly, but I promise, if he continues to Do so such things as announcing that dinner is served, then proceeding to fart I'm the room as I approach (to eat my fucking food), I will have to love the memory of him.....as I look at the paving slabs in the garden underneath which he will be buried. Joking of course (but only just!!). Good luck ladies. Good luck men-folk. See you on the other side when I hope I have become sane and fun again......

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    1. I couldnt explain it any better!! Thank goodness for this site. Maybe theres hope for my husband afterall haha

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    2. Thank u! These posts just help me think that maybe im not crazy and maybe my husband actually has a fightig chance. Its so frustrating when u always feel one second away from going postal and theres nothing u can do. I need a very tall drink and a cigarette so bad and i see red when he can have it and i cant! Just trying to take it day by day.....keep me posted everyone :)

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    3. AnonymousJune 29, 2012

      I laughed so hard, I had tears running down my face reading this post. I have the same feeeling and couldn't have put it into better words.

      I can't wait to have my baby and have a very strong cocktail.

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    4. My friend it will be the best damn cocktail, EVER!

      And thank you. ;)

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    5. Thank you so much for this I pissed my pants literally.

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    6. Holy crap! I am at work reading this and am laughing so hard I'm crying, everyone is looking at me like I'm a damn nut! This is my life right now and I'm only SIX WEEKS! Someone kill me... Please... Just get it over with!

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    7. You guys are great! I sooo needed this! Plus, my Fiance pretty much dodged the bullet there...since I was thinking earlier about ending things. There's hope!!!

      Yeah... He'd better have a dirty martini waiting for me when I get home..lol. realistically, that'll probably happen a couple of months from then lol..one can dream

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  30. Hello!

    My name is Patrick and I am a first time expecting father. Like one of the other guys who has posted on here, I too am dealing with a pregnant ex-girlfriend (dumped me about 14 weeks in to the pregnancy after first pushing me away) who I believe has gone past hatred and is at the point where she doesn't care about me or what I feel or what concerns me about our unborn child.

    We hadn't been dating for very long when we found out she was pregnant, but everything was going great (from my perspective): we had good times together (spent most of our time together) and never argued. Not that I never expected us to have disagreements, but that was how it had been. As she advanced in her pregnancy, she became more agitated with me, sniping here and there, accusing me of being too laid back, etc.

    I'll admit that my worry increased as she began to feel worse and worse. It hurt me to see her suffering so. And I think I may have been overbearing; asking her how she and baby were doing, just the typical concerns of a guy who loves his pregnant girlfriend and the baby on the way. Instead of really addressing her frustration with this, she pushed me away. We had moments of her wanting to be with me and then wanting to leave and then texting me about later and crying. It was a rollercoaster.

    About a month ago, she dumped me. She told me she was no longer happy and wanted to do what was best for baby and her happiness. Every pregnant woman (and woman who had been pregnant) I'd spoken with assured me it was most likely hormones and that she would come around. But she won't talk to me at all. She won't let me at appointments (saying she doesn't need my support) and hasn't contacted me since her most recent one. A mutual friend has been going with her and says that she doesn't want to talk to me, that it isn't hormones, that she's done with me and that I need to just leave her alone.

    I'm so confused and lost about all of this. I know she is going through a lot and am willing to do anything for her and our child, but what I'm getting from all of this is that I am not needed. It hurts. I know that I haven't been perfect, but I just want to know what's going on with our unborn child. I am afraid to lose her and that I will not be able to connect with the baby because of all of this, and now even our mutual friend doesn't want to talk about it.

    I can only hope that all of these things I read online are true and that things will return to "normal" (if only gradually). I'd do anything for her and our child and I want us to be a family, but I don't have much reason to believe that this will change.

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  31. Patrick again. Also, thank you for writing about this. :)

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  32. Patrick, I do understand what u going thru. I was going to thru the same thing for the first 3 months. The first two weeks where normal but for one day to another everything change,
    I love my girlfriend and it took time for me to understand what was going on with her and her body. Now she want me to go with her to the doctor visits, we are going to dinner like the old days> I could tell you one thing, those are hormones talking, it took me 3 moths to understand that. Patrick just give her some time to realize what she is going thru.
    Right now my girlfriend is 17 weeks and 3 days pregnant and could tell you this, your story is very similar to my story. Take care Patrick

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  33. one more thing Patrcik, this site help me a lot.

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  34. I really appreciate the fact that I am not the only one going through this. I don't know what it is that I want. I want his love and affection and attention - ALL of his attention but I don't want him to touch me or look at me or talk to me!

    WHEN has he turned into such an IDIOT?? We have been dating for 3 years now and I only just realised that he has the intellectual ability of a pebble!!! NO!!! I CANNOT TAKE ANY MEDICATION EXCEPT PARACETAMOL!!! It feels like I have to repeat myself a million times. Oh...and when I say "do whatever the hell you want" - I don't mean you can go and do what you want! it means that you must reallllyyyy reconsider your options and do what I want!

    How hard is it pick your own socks up from the living room floor? I work 5 days a week too. AND I am raising my almost 6 year old. I work from 8am - 5pm Monday to Friday and every other Saturday. After work I rush to my son's rugby practice. We leave there at 6pm just to get home and find my OH watching TV. Then I cook dinner and help my son with homework - pack lunchboxes and bath my son, do the dishes and already have to think about what will be quick for next nights dinner so that I can take meat out of freezer. Then I put my son in his bed. My days are really long - I get up at 5am EVERY morning.

    I am 33 weeks pregnant now and I have had thoughts of either killing my partner of myself. Even the way he combs his hair irritates me. And yes - a man's breath changes when a woman gets pregnant. We have had fights about him brushing his teeth. I call him at work and ask whether he has brushed twice because his toothbrush does not feel wet enough! and what is with the chewing??!! how many times does he want to chew on ONE spoonful of porridge?? Seriously - swallow already!!

    Oh....and it is my birthday next week - turning the BIG 30!!! :-) my best friend asked my OH what he is getting me for my birthday and he replied "a broom"!!! So .... now I am the whitch! Next time..."honey"...I am NOT going to slam on my breaks!!!!!!!!

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  35. Brilliant! Bloody brilliant!! Standing ovation to you!!

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  36. AnonymousJune 14, 2012

    Thankful to hear that I am not alone. I despise everything about him. We haven't been intimate in months because I can't stand him touching me and his scruffy face really turns me off. This blog really helped me to put things in perspective. This too shall pass, just like this pregnancy (6 weeks left!!).

    Thanks for all the great posts and encouragement that me and my hormones are simply normal!!

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    1. You are very welcome! Hormones are a bitch! I'm 4 1/2 months postpartum and I JUST love my Husband again.. lol

      Congratulations on your sweet baby. 6 weeks will be over before you know it.

      I hope you will join me on the otherside at www.firsttimemomanddad.com

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    2. AnonymousJune 29, 2012

      omg, I LOVE this website. LOVE. Hilarious. I feel the same crazy way. I am 28 weeks pregnant.

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    3. Thank you!! Congratulations! 28 weeks, over halfway!

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  37. AnonymousJune 29, 2012

    Omg, i thought i was the only one! My fiance drives me INSANE. I dont want him to touch me or kiss me. Everything he does annoys the hell out of me! I'm 39 weeks pregnant today and i am about to end it with him bc everything he does pisses me off! It makes me wonder if i even love him. I know it has to be the hormones, but come on! The sad thing is that he does practically everything i want him to do, but for some reason he doesmit wrong or isnt good enough! I hope i can last another week :(

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    1. AnonymousJune 30, 2012

      my daugher is a year and 6months.And I still can't stand him.Everything he does just drives me insane.id rather speak to him on phone than in person.Is it still the hormanes? Am confused.

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    2. I have no idea! I'm 5 months mpostpartum and while I'm having some agitation towards him, I'm no where near as disgusted as I was when I was pregnant.

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  38. omg I can 100% relate. I tell my husband all the time that there are days when more than anything I want to hit him with my car.

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  39. AnonymousJuly 16, 2012

    iv read a lot about this on account of my girlfriend being pregnant and moving out. ours was planned and we both could not be happier, she says she still loves me and that she needs time. we kiss and hug as i'm over at here moms house quite a bit. i have read about 50hours worth of forms, and came up with hormones make women crazy and men feel unloved, and when a man who is expecting a child feels unloved he acts out like a child. iv read a lot of stories similar to mine, however one key difference plays whether or not the couple stay together. the women uses hormones as reasoning behind said words, where as the man cannot. therefore a women can get away with saying i don't love you anymore (as mine did and since taken them back blaming hormones 100%) where as if a man says something dreadful he has no real reason, other than being hurt and scared, but in the stories iv read is not a good enough reason in the women's eyes. guys wait, send flowers, text a little, give her space. she might love you so much she does not want to be around you while bursting out. i have checked all sites for men and women trying to gain prospective and i feel i have. no one is wrong in these situations.

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  40. AnonymousJuly 26, 2012

    Married 5 yrs in october. Second baby with him. I have a two yr old girl and pregnant just 8 weeks tomorrow. Before I Knew I was pregnant I got rid of him. He moved across the damn street. Too damn close!! Go away! And he comes over often as if he still has rights in my house.I hate the way he looks, speaks, smells , dresses. Just about everything! He is so stupid! Sex sex sex that's all. He wants. Big ass baby, all the time complaining. "You don't love me anymore?" Hell nO! Now get out!! I never did punk ass! what a mule! What did he do to make me so cross? Idk! But I'm cross. I relly don't like him. "Babe you wanna play words with friends with me?" No!! Were not friends you're my enemy. Stop texting me. Arrrrrrrrgggggghhhhhhhh! Why won't he read a book and enlighten himself? Stupid man so stupid! I'm not letting him in the delivery room, ill do it alone. He better keep his damn distance.

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  41. AnonymousJuly 30, 2012

    I hate my boyfriend I'm so glad to hear I am not alone. I honestly thought I was going crazy. Everything about him pisses me off I find myself sleeping on the couch because I hate the fact he is breathing. Am I a bad person?

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    1. Heck no you are not a bad person... You are growing a person! Your boyfriend is not. He is carrying on business as usual. You are not! I hate to say it. You may hate him for a little longer. But, when you get mad at him, ask yourself why? If its a good reason, his ass belongs on the couch! If it's a bad reason... Well you ate growing a baby, it happens, but try to cut him slack on those occasions. Unfortunately he's a man, he's going to screw up heaps during your pregnancy .

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  42. Omg!!! I was so happy when i found this blog!!! I am 16 weeks and there's been times when I feel like i just hate my bf so much!!! He just annoys the hell out of me. I enjoy being next to him as long as he doesnt speak or tries kissing me or touching me... I try to not let him know cuz hes just so sensitive, i cant tell him anything cuz hes like," your so mean to me, u dont love me anymore" and i've tried explaining to him that its not me its my hormones n he just doesnt understand!he just complains all the time n gets all hurt... which to tell u the truth, at the moment i really dont care abt hurting his feeling but then i think maybe i dont really mean some of the things i say. ive broken up with him 3 times already this month... i just want to be left aloneand he just wants to be on me!! Its so fustrating sometimes i just want to punch him in the face. When he kisses me im just think, "get off me"! it really grosses me out! I really hope i get over this soon, I dont like feeling like this towars him...
    ~Annoyed Prego

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  43. I am 35 weeks and just getting this way... I literally want to punch my hubby in the face and then cry after and then I want to kiss him 5 hrs later!! I dunno I am beyond emotional at this point I cry all the time. I find myself writing him letters to explain myself! I literally told him I wanted a divorce cause he didn't take out the trash !! Yes it's that stupid!! He doesn't even speak cause he is scared I will slap him!! Man now I feel bad after reading this .... Lol hormones!!

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    1. A divorce for not taking out the trash!!! YES! That's pregnancy hormones at their finest hour!! It'll be over soon enough. Congratulations to you both on the bub!

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  44. Hello all, my girlfriend is 26 weeks and right now she is getting more moody that the 1st trimester. Now she tell me she hates me more and the she does not want to do anything with me, that all this time I have not support her. I know I have done everything in my power to help her and sometimes she will push me always. I’m not sure this is part of her hormones the way she acting but I’m taking everything. This is my first and I have never experience or see anyone act like this on their pregnancy. Pls help to understand this is normal.

    Right now I have giver her space for she could relax.


    Thank you

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    1. i mean to say 36 weeks pregnat

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    2. Even though we are exactly sure why, we just hate certain people. I am 12 weeks pregnant and hate my coworker, he has been like a brother to me for years and now I despise him. I can't explain why I hate him other than hormones. If your girlfriend is 36 weeks, she is almost there and you are too. She is going to feel like crap for sometime while her body readjusts to post baby. If she breastfeeds, her hormonal spikes might continue a little longer. Just keep doing what you are doing, be supportive, let her know you appreciate the sacrifice she has made for both of you. It is not easy, but try to work around her moods. A random act of kindness does wonders! If you don't normally by flowers, go get some or purchase her a body massage. This would be wonderful for a miserable full term preggy, and most of all tell her she is beautiful and you love her so much. We need the nice words and actions during this time because we are an absolute train wreck. I hope this helps.

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  45. week 10, he sleeps on the floor, he smells, and he's useless at the moment. I'm off to vomit. Thank you for making me feel I'm not alone in wanting to make my husband sleep on the balcony :)

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  46. I am pretty sure I am the first person to write or even say this. I am pregnant and hate my "co worker". Some people have a work wife or work hubby. I work with my husband and to my lovely surprise, I don't hate him. I am honestly grateful for this, but there is the "co worker" code name "J" (not hubby) that I despise more than anyhting in the world. I have worked with "J" for about 4 years and we used to get along really well, he could be a pain in the ass sometimes, but I am patient and looked over it. HOWEVER, now I hate that little bastard! I am so pissed with him I cannot even look at him. When you can't even make eye contact, you know you have hit a whole new level of anger and disgust. My real hubby works with me and "J", and I have talked about it with the hubby, he just listens and may be silently thanking God that it is not him I hate. I actually started hating "J" a week before I knew I was pregnant. He was so f***ing annoying. Like a 12 year old boy who thrives on picking at girls. His childish antics used to be humorous, now I want to tell him, "hey f*cker, your 32 not 12, grow the f*** up. He is SOOO naggy and needy all the time, I just want to slap the crap out of him. Even when he is not doing anything in particular to piss me off except for existing, I am so tempted to trip him, feed him chicken(which he is extremely allergic to), or just tell him to go the f*** away. I swear he is on his period. Yes that's right men have man-periods. Cranky, b!tchy, and just plain a$$holes. It usually lasts for 5 to 7 days and then they are "usually" normal again. I blasted "J" with my fury a week ago for approximately a half an hour. It felt great to rip into him and let him know what an asshole he had been(at work) and that he f***ed me over big time. Toward the end of the week I was plotting to make his life miserable. He tends to whine to get what he wants, but since I despise him now I have shut down every opportunity he has looked for to benefit. I feel evil but quite satisfied when I f*** his plans up. He is a subordinate and whines for things, he only thinks of himself and not of everyone else he is affecting by his b!tching. I have tried to explain how his requests negatively affect others in the past, but I don't f***ing care anymore. I want to make his life hell. Please help me, I despise my co worker!

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  47. Thank you!!! I was feeling so bad about wanting to smack my husband for every damn thing. My mom asked me what it was that was irritating me so much about him and I said "is 'everything about him' too vague of a response?" I was actually outside shooting my bow & arrow and wanted to tape his picture to the target...I didn't. And the worst of it is just as soon as I start to feel better about him he goes and does something totally moronic like staying out all night bar hopping with his friends, crashing on their couch and not calling me ONCE the entire night or morning to atleast tell me he was alive. Or we will be sitting together on the sofa and I ask him to rub my feet for a few minutes and he just flat out says no. Why are they so damn stupid! Lesbians are on to something...

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    1. Lol! You sound like my friend with the lesbians are on to something... But something tells me every relationship suffers during this time!

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  48. This has been a great blog to read. Im only 10 weeks and lately my husband has been pissing me off so much- and yes, his breathing and smell are getting worse too. Ive tried to be nice, but usually Ill say something (totally innocent) and he will get all emotional. I think he is looking for a fight all the time.

    However, yesterday when he came in to fight about his mom and sister it occurred to me that he needs my affection. He is totally affectionate, and I have been completely avoiding him. I dont want to sit by him, hug him, or even kiss him ( he even tastes different now) plus he has to beg for sex- its so sad. I never wanted us to be like this.

    Anyways, when he was being emotional at my comments, I realized that I have been neglecting him; and like any normal human being, he was hurt by me. I really wished I could sympathize because I love him, but he bugs me. And it bugs me even more that he fights me back. Cant he just listen to my complaints and sympathyse and agree (even if he doesn't) and not fight me back! When he fights, I fight and everything gets worse.

    Thank you all for the posts, Ive learned that I had better make a bigger effort to change my attitude before this beast inside turns into a monster.
    Plus- I want to be happy with my family. Ive heard it be said that happiness is a choice- Obviously, this is going to take some serious mental adjustments on my part to choose to be happy for the next while.

    Best wishes to everyone!

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  49. Ok so pregnant for the 3rd time. 38 weeks so 11 days to go. I am tired, frustrated and excited at the same time. I am desperate to get things going. Talked to my husband about sex. He seems to be avoiding it and believe me I want nothing to do with the sex but am hoping it will move things along. He said to me that it weirds him out that if the doctor can check me and feel our son's head that his son might feel his penis. Let me just say we have 2 girls (13 and 8) and he never made comments like that. He is usually a pretty rationale sensative person. Anyone else received a comment like this? I feel like I have to convience him to have sex with me. I am ready to put a pillow over his head while he sleeping comfortablly.

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  50. I am so thankful for this blog. I am 18 weeks prego and on an emotional roller coaster. I live in Europe, but I am American and I want nothing more than to go home and be with my mother to deliver this child.

    My husband bugs the shit out of me, I feel angry and aggressive towards him. I fantasize about leaving him and never coming back from the states. I want so badly to punish him, for what I am not sure. Perhaps all his imperfections are amplified now. I am seriously out of my mind. He tries so hard, but it always seems that he is trying in his own interest not mine. I cry a lot. I say hateful things and that I am leaving. I tell him why do we even bother as I don't want to raise a child around fighting over who did the dishes. So "f"ing lame. He gets my blood boiling and then just goes for it. Stressing me out is a game. Its clearly not good for baby or me. He will not stop smoking weed! WTF really??? He lets me carry heavy things and just looks at me. He makes no effort for the preparation of the the baby. I do everything with his mother. Thank god for her. The baby started kicking today for the first time he really did not care, comment or want to touch it. He said I am driving... even though we where behind a piece of farm equipment! He farts in bed and hogs the space and I want to punch him in his face and kick him out of bed literally. I hate the way he breaths at night. He ties to make me feel bad that I like to take a bath and float every night. Is he pregnant, does he have uterine pain, does his freakin back hurt him all the time, is his stomach becoming gigantic??? HELL NO> Leave me a alone. I just want peace. I had to leave for work out of town for a week and I swear I loved not being around him, as soon as I saw him and I mean the minute I saw him I became a bitch.. for the whole weekend! I look forward to leaving on Monday... I also look forward to leaving him for a month to go to the States. I need a break from all that is man. ERRGghhh

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    1. Oh Momma. YOu sound just like me, well except I drug my Australian back to the states so I could be prego close to the comforts of home, Hopefully the dutch doctors are better than the service at the restaurants. ;)

      As for his shitty attitude, outlook and behavior... he is in daddy douche bag mode for sure. My husband went through the similar behavior. It turned out he was jealous and feeling ignored. Leave it to men to behave like fuckwits thinking that will get them the attention they need. As soon as I explained that I somehow still loved him, even though he was being a total dick, he calmed down and became more supportive. As for when the baby was born, he stepped up to the daddy plate swinging, he has turned into the best father I know. He still has his douchy moments, but so do I.

      And one last bit of info... you are going to want to kill him off and on until your baby is 6 months old or you are sleeping well again, which ever comes first.

      If you need to bitch whole hog at an American, email me, firsttimemomanddad@gmail.com or tiredofbeingpregnant@gmail.com

      Please stay in touch and come visit me at www.firsttimemomanddad.com for more than you ever wanted to know about what to expect after baby arrives.

      big hugs,

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  51. Wow me too!! I am 30 weeks and I hate my husbands guts. Murder ya'll murder, cause I hate his stupid face. Anything about my pregnancy he doesn't care to talk about. All i get out of his dumb stupid head is uh huh. Idiot! when he gets off of work in the morning my heart aches just knowing he's on his way home.I get so excited when he leaves and go back to work. His lazy A** don't even help me while I'm pregnant and he be wondering why I be yelling all the time, fat a** eating up all the food from me. When he be sleeping so good and I can't sleep cause of the millions of reasons while pregnant, I be wanting to slap the s*** out of him, and i do sometimes!just looking at him make me wanna fight. Why the hell he here for? And who the hell he think he is telling me he's tired and had only 5 hours of sleep when I ain't had no sleep, punk mother f**** be telling me his back and legs be hurting like he's the pregnant one.look at his lazy a** in there sleep, and 'in there' means he out in the living room sleeping, his stinky a** ain't sleeping with me. Got the nerves to call me mean, but this is me being nice. wait til he wake up imma raise hell in this place. I should tell him my water broke and watch his weird a** run around like a fool.

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    1. OH girl. I am sorry, but this is the best, most true to life "I'm pregnant and hate my husband" comment I have ever read. Well said...

      Now, I am sorry. I know that while it is funny for me to read, I know it is not funny for you to live. 30 weeks, momma. You are almost there, and hopefully when that beautiful baby arrives your husband will stop being an ass.

      This too shall pass...

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  52. It seems to me that men change while us women are pregnant. I mean hello! We're creating a life here and you men started it to begin with. I thought i was the only one that hated my husband. He'd tell my girlfriends and my mother that im being crazy. Umm... No thats not how it works! I noticed that there would be times he wouldnt say anyrhing to me or he wouldnt want to have anything to do with me. I mean, i have to beg the guy to have sex with me! Whats with that? Ill tell him how i feel and he would be all "sorry, i dont know what ur talking bout" its like the days i want to be love he always tries to come up with something unusual like "i gf ae to go to the bathroom" something stipid. But the days i dont want to be touched, he's ALL over me.
    Im 28 weeks pregnant and we have two kids already. Well ones mine and ones his different parents. 3 & 4. But i do EVERYTHING. Yeh he works and brings the income in, but who makes sure you have clean clothes, who makes sure theres dinner on the table or uour lunch is packed? Yeh me! I do so much and i dont ask for much. Just a little help with the children and cleaning up just after dinner thats all. The kids dont wanna have anything to do with me cause "all momma does is get mad at us" awww really?! I dont mean to, just do what i ask of you. Im just hoping things change waaay more when baby is home. Dad is doing better after he had seem the vein pop out on my forehead haha, And kids are kinda there, they have their days. So maybe a major frwak out helps. Im serious

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  53. LOL! I can RELATE! I've threatened my husband of divorce about 20 times during pregnancy (26 weeks along). I yell EVERY DAY at him because he is NOT helpful! When I had morning sickness, he had a "bug" that made him vomit more; when I need to sleep all of the time, he takes the cue to sleep too (even though the house could use a sweeping, or the bathroom cleaning, etc.) He eats all of my food. He talks too much. He smells funny. He breathes on me at night. His voice sounds like fingernails on a chalkboard. He can't drive right. He wines too much.....on, and on, I could go.

    The worst of it, is that I (obviously) can't take Valium, yet he pops it like it's going out of style in order to cope with ME...as if I'M the problem!

    Once I drop this kid, I am soooo going kung-fu on him!

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  54. LOL! I can RELATE! I've threatened my husband of divorce about 20 times during pregnancy (26 weeks along). I yell EVERY DAY at him because he is NOT helpful! When I had morning sickness, he had a "bug" that made him vomit more; when I need to sleep all of the time, he takes the cue to sleep too (even though the house could use a sweeping, or the bathroom cleaning, etc.) He eats all of my food. He talks too much. He smells funny. He breathes on me at night. His voice sounds like fingernails on a chalkboard. He can't drive right. He wines too much.....on, and on, I could go.

    The worst of it, is that I (obviously) can't take Valium, yet he pops it like it's going out of style in order to cope with ME...as if I'M the problem!

    Once I drop this kid, I am soooo going kung-fu on him!

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  55. My 26 weeks of pregnancy experience...

    I hate my husband. I had no idea what a wussy moron I married until I became pregnant. Here is a poem, written in his honor:

    Roses are red, I wouldn't know for sure,
    As you stopped bringing them once you "knocked me up"
    As a man you feel your job is done, but you can't get your much needed sleep
    Over my puking in the next room during the first trimester. Poor you.

    Your voice, as annoying as hell.
    Sheer fingernails on a chalkboard, with that twinge of east coast whining
    and why oh why must you INSIST
    on breathing your wretched breath on me at night?

    Alas, I have a solution!
    While you slumber, so peacefully at night...
    I shall kick you very hard under the covers every time I am awake
    Just because I can. (Until I realize I was actually kicking the dog the past few weeks, now I cry)

    Do you really not notice that the bathroom is filthy?
    Do you not see how you can not manage to hit the toilet?
    It is easier for you to bend down and clean up your own pee, then pregnant me.
    Douchebag.

    People say, that the husbands develop pregnancy symptoms too.
    I had no idea that sleeping all of the time were one of them....
    Now NOTHING gets done around the house, with both of us sleeping constantly
    And still, you f*cking breath on me!

    Another symptom of my pregnancy, so easily shouldered by you
    is eating. All of my food. My food. Mine.
    I love craving something I have just bought at the store,
    Only to discover how you happily ate it because of YOUR cravings.

    I've only threatened you with divorce a dozen times,
    Your mother tells you I'm not serious,
    Perhaps SHE can come take around the garbage on Tuesdays,
    While you slumber...All....Day....Long and forget your one damn weekly job.

    Thank you for cleaning the cat boxes, especially since two of the cats are yours.
    I am so sorry you have to feed them, too, as the smell of their food
    has me yakking for hours. I know how difficult it is,
    For you to pull your lazy ass out of bed and feed them.

    Your driving skills
    leave a lot to be desired.
    I DO think that you
    are trying to kill your unborn son and me.

    Alas, there is a dim light at the end of tunnel
    In 14 weeks to be exact.
    I'll be able to drop this kid,
    And sweep the house for the first time in 9 whole months.

    In 14 weeks, can't come soon enough
    I'll replace the burned out bulb in the kitchen
    that you insist you can see fine without
    And I'll stop tripping in the dark.

    In 14 weeks, it will be such a joy,
    to finally mow the lawn!
    Not that it's very long,
    As you "forgot" to water it all summer during my first trimester.

    Other husbands, they are tired too
    They also work 40 hours a week,
    So non-working man, who sleeps all of the time,
    What is your excuse?

    I miss my valium.....

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    1. OH. MY. God! MIchelle! Brilliant. Just brilliant. I hope you do not mind, But I just turned your comment into a post! You just said what millions of women are thinking.

      Don't worry the 14 weeks will come... sleep now...

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    2. Lolololololololol! My husband don't think this is funny but I'm rolling around like a pig in mud with laughter....lololololololololol

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  56. I thought it was just me! My husband is driving me mad and I'm only 9 weeks. I can't stand the way he breathes, talks, eats, smells! He moves and it annoys me! On top of it I'm suffering from hyperemesis...and yes he looks after me but I just need silence all the time and no smells! And it frustrates me when he does annoying things like answer a phone because he shouts when he speaks, and when he cooks, he leaves doors open which just make me sicker! I'm dying of hunger and when I see him eat, I just want to punch him in the face! Everytime I look at him, I think 'YOU'RE The reason I feel so rubbish!!' and he's gotten off scot free in the mean time. I can't stand him being in the same room as me and feel so much better when he's not home. I've said on several occasions that I need more room to sleep and one of us could sleep on the pull out because he hogs the bed...but he refuses to listen! Arghhh wish I could stop feeling like this because I love him but at the moment I can't stand him!

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  57. I am soooo glad I found this blog because I feel like I'm on the verge of murder.lol My fiance is soo annoying. All he does is be lazy and play video games or computer games. He never wants to spend time with me, and it's starting to piss me off because we live in the same house, but jeez, when is he going to grow up?! I really just want harmony and to look at him in the loving way I did before. Sex isn't the same, I don't want it, smells are rancid, and my appetite is ruined. Can't wait to have the baby so this is over.

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  58. Oh my gosh, I found this thread also by typing "Why do I hate my husband so much during pregnancy?"...

    I'm 21, newly married this last April, and am already 18 weeks pregnant. It was unplanned. My husband and I are so in love and we're sarcastic assholes to each other, but its all playful and makes life more fun. During my 1st trimester I was sick 24/7 and sleeping all the time, so he catered to me as much as possible. I hit my 2nd trimester and sickness has subsided mostly, but im still very fatigued and HOLY CRAP have my hormones kicked in! I flip out and stay mad over the stupidest things, and he can't say or do anything right. Then when I calm down, the water works begin and I start crying uncontrollably. He either holds me until I feel better, or he does or says something else to piss me off all over again. He works out of town 5 days a week, so its REALLY hard and lonely to be pregnant without him home.

    Plus, we're currently living in his parents house because we're closing on our own house (been living here since after our WEDDING....)... My own parents just divorced officially in September so there's a lot of turmoil there. So as it is, im uncomfortable as hell where im living and the fact that the man I love the most is also my personal punching bag every weekend makes things so much more stressful and confusing!! This blog makes me feel a lot better though.

    Tonight actually, we had been fighting all day, he got home from work and we opened each others xmas gifts together early (he bought me a birthstone ring), then I seduced him later this evening and made things pretty steamy for him and let him finish even though I didn't. Then he made me mad afterward... then we went upstairs to eat some food and I calmed down... then we get downstairs and I lay down and im upset and depressed out of nowhere again. And that's when things spiraled. He'd worked all day and was struggling to stay awake let alone effectively cheer me up which only pissed me off more and made me feel more alone. Long story short, its really hard to be considerate of HIS feelings when im so emotional and hormonal, but this post reassured me that im only TEMPORARILY psychotic. So thank you!! Im now heading downstairs to wake him up briefly to apologize and snuggle up to him and go to sleep.

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  59. While hormones make your fuse extra short (and its important to realize that), I think us women get annoyed when we realize what were capable versus them. I think the annoyance just grows after baby comes. I have a 2 yr old and 2 mo old and on most days I hate my hubby (or at least find him useless). My hope is that we can make it through the next year w/o me killing him or him divorcing me for being such a bitch and then once on the other side, focus on our marriage and what we love about each other.

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  60. THANK YOU! OMG I thought I was going crazy because I effing HATE my husband right now. I mean, don't get me wrong, he has really pissed me off before and I have really flipped out on him before, but this is ridiculous! I never knew that I had this much hate in me or could ever have it towards him because usually I REALLY love him, but right now, I am honestly on the brink of packing up my crap and leaving! I despise him so much right now I can't handle it! I don't want to be pregnant, I don't want these feelings, but of course that's just how it is right now and I've got a lonnnng time to go.

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  61. It is so nice to hear that others are going through the same thing. I am only just 8 weeks, but I cannot stand to even look at my husband. He repulses me. I flinch if he touches me and I don't think we have kissed, let alone anything else for weeks. I just am not attracted to him at all anymore and don't want him anywhere near me, I don't even want him to sleep in my bed.

    Every time he opens his mouth I just like him less and less. He just doesn't seem to be the person I fell in love with and think he's stupid and pathetic. Honestly, until I read this I was on the verge of leaving him and doing it on my own. Does it really get better? Because despite the fact he is honestly perfect, cooks, cleans, shops, does everything he possibly can to help me, I can't stand him, and I am miserable.

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  62. I thought maybe it was just me. I hate my s/I with everything in me right now. It's like I want to leave him so bad but I love him so much. Everything he does or says works my last nerve. I'm only 14 weeks and I just can't picture us holding on until 40 weeks. Would it be selfish to advise we break up until the baby gets here? If we still wanna be together after the baby is born then we try again.

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  63. oh my god this page is like gold dust im so glad i found it. I too did absolutley hate my fiance in the first three months. i loathed everything about him. his smell UGH. and his breathing, i didnt want him near me nevermind kiss him or hug him, and all he was bothered about was getting a bit!! i was so bloody exhausted and sick and working all day too on my feet, I was literally in tears for three months straight. things slowly got better and im 24 weeks pregnant now, he still annoys me but no where near as much, i just wish they would listen you know? just try to understand? no matter how much i try to tell him what im going through its like he logs it for 10 minutes then he's forgotten instantly what ive been trying to explain in tears.. IDIOTS they are. but things have improved between us, but still tired all the time. 16 weeks to go but it might as well be a year. i hate being pregnant. i cant wait to start feeling like a normal human being again...

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  64. I hate my husband so much right now. Thank God I'm not alone. xx

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  65. Yup! I'm pretty much done too. I know most of it is my hormones but its my truth right now!

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  66. I thought I was the only one who fett this way! My partner annoys me with everything he does and says. I love him to death but sometimes I wish I could just snap my fingers and have him disappear. He smells different, he breathes differently and even the way he eats me annoys the crap out of me to the point where I pinch him to make him stop. And he is so ignorant and does not understand that all the changes my body os going through in these past 10 weeks are driving me crazy. This blog had me laughing when I just felt like crawling in bed and crying myself to sleep.

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  67. I am now at my 29th week, and I am so glad that I found this blog! It helps me feel soooo better knowing that I am not alone.
    During my first trimester, I puked my guts out pretty much every single day. I also couldn't stand my husband’s smell (thanks to the heighten sense of smell during pregnancy), especially when he was farting or burping in front me. There were times when I snapped and left the room as soon as he did that.
    I also got so angry at him from time to time because he was being so stupid over small things that I don’t even bother to mention. However I do feel guilty afterwards, not because I was not at him but because I was worried about the baby. Luckily my parents are out of town for couple days so I just sneaked back to their house and spend some quality time with myself. Otherwise I feel I have the urge to slap my husband tonight!!!

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  68. Oh god...your husband is already better then mine.... My husband a deadbeat loser who thinks he is the king with a sister that is a horrible bitch you just wanna punch her face in for manipulating him to go against me......

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  69. I am in my second pregnancy and have been married for almost 3 years...I am 13 weeks and I was worried I was depressed....I asked my mother if it was normal to hate my husband..she said its perfectly normal! So I read this, and im so glad I did! Its great to know im not the only one who is constantly freaking annoyed by everything he does!

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  70. Thank you really for this site i thot im alone in all this and i was beggining to think that smthing is wrong with me. As for me its even dficult for me to have sex with him weneva he tries to enter me i feel irritated and i end up feelling like im starving him is this really normal im like 23 weeks along

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  71. Oh my! I love it all! I was one of those that googled "I'm pregnant and I hate my husband" after a stupid (very stupid) fight. This blog made me laugh and calm my anger... I think I will be coming back here. What I don't get is how the heck my husband is still so idiotic, and insensitive and this is our SECOND pregnancy.Did he not learn anything the first time around???

    Here is a list of some things that if remembered would make my pregnancy (and my husbands life) that much better:

    1. This pregnancy was PLANNED (you wanted it too!) so freaking deal with it. I swear you complain more than me!
    2. Don't dismiss my feelings and tell me "It's your hormones talking" unless you want to continue to have a pissed off wife.
    3. It's not my choice to throw up every two hours.
    4. Wipe off the damn toilet seat, or at the very least flush the toilet because within 2 hours I will for sure be hovering over it puking out my guts.
    5. It's also not my choice to have to get out of bed and pee a thousand times at night, so please don't sigh with displeasure every time I accidently wake you up when I have to get out of bed.
    6. Mostly just keep your damn stupid ass comments to yourself...

    Thanks for the consideration.

    Hopeful that he will eventually come to his senses!

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  72. I HATE MY BOYFRIEND... I love him but he is getting on my nerves... I hate the way he talks ,looks , moves.... Everything! I'm 7 Weeks and I get sick everyone I eat andfor some reason the only thing that makes me feel better is skin on skin contract with his body... Is that normal? I throw water on him the other day and I want to choke a booger out of him... Its his first chills he seems lost and helpless yet dumb and inconsiderate... This sucks... None of my other pregnancies was this bad... Help

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  73. i agree!! i am currently 36 weeks pregnant and let me just say i love my boyfriend to death but i hate his guts!!! he breaths louder than me and im the one thats carrying all the extra weight not to mention a HUMAN and sitting next to him when he eats is crazy i didnt realize we had a cow! and when i complain about my back or my feet hurting do you think he tries to help out by doing little things around the house to make my day go a little easier?! NOPE! Lazy bum. i wish men knew what we go through during pregnancy then maybe they would understand and try to be a little more helpful. instead of causing the mess HELP CLEAN IT UP BEFORE I KICK YOU! and i mean that in the nicest way possible. (not really)

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  74. This martyrdom you call having children sounds like a blast. I can't wait to go from the love of your life to being a disgusting pig of a husband who's resented, hated, and neglected. Sign me up :)

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  76. I'm just about 6 months pregnant. My husband and I fought before we got married and now it's to a new level. He's been unemployed almost the entire pregnancy and is getting no unemployment. I have been told that at 32 weeks I will be taken off work. I bartend and had back surgery 2 years ago so my body isn't in the best condition to be carrying a child. He's living at his parents house and I'm alone at a family friends house. His mom's a hoarder so the house is unlivable. His brother, sis in law and their kid inhabit 2 of the rooms in the house too. His sis in law works 12 hrs/wk and everyone else is jobless for one reason or another. The house is absolute chaos almost 24 hrs/day. When we got evicted the week I found out I was pregnant I moved to my in laws with him but I could only last a month. We now live apart and I stay there a few days a week to spend time together. We have broken up more times than I can count and the baby has been active/stressed since the beginning. I HATE MY LAZY HUSBAND!!! He claims he's looking for a job and he's trying so hard to be a different person for us and for the baby "he loves so much already" and all I want is for him to disappear and for me to not be pregnant anymore. I am broke, my credit it now ruined and I feel like a knocked up teenager. I have no relationship with my parents and feel like a burden on everyone if i share whats really going on in my head. I keep everything to myself and take it all out on him. Tonight he smacked our cat in the face and knocked him off the cat tree for no reason and I pushed him into the closet knocking the doors of their track. I was shocked when I did it but I couldn't bring myself to apologize. Hours later he said he wanted to hit me after I did that. Nothing he does is good enough and I feel like we're in an endless fight/debate about getting divorced. He has no job, no safe home for a child and his truck is about to get repo'd and he still threatens me that if we split up he'll fight me for custody. I just want a man who has a job and can give us a home! I can't support us and grow a baby!!!!!

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    1. I'm sorry, it's sounds like you are in a terrible situation. Your whole post was worrisome, but what sent up a red flag was that he became violent with the cat for no reason. I know that the way someone treats animals is a good indication of how they will also treat children. Btw- I am in a similar situation. I am 8 months pregnant, sole financial supporter yet cannot financially afford to leave my crappy husband. Mine is disrespectful to me, acts entitled to the money I earn, doesn't care that I am pregnant or having a baby. I have tried to talk about divorce and he said he will make it ridiculously difficult for me to leave him, refuses to leave the house I pay for, and states he will try to take the baby (right.). So I can relate to your situation. He is also nasty to our pets because he has some kind of superiority complex, but he has never become physically violent with them. I am very worried for you, and wish I could offer some good advice. The best is probably to get out, but I know it is not that easy. If you are to leave, its best to make a clean break and have a very strategic plan set up before hand to do it in the safest way possible. Is he usually violent?

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  77. Wow! I'm so thankful that I stumbled upon this! You have instantly turned my rage into laughter! I am 6 weeks pregnant and constantly accused of being a horrible bitch. I'm so sick of it. I have always been fairly high maintenance, and definitely have a temper, but did my idiot husband somehow think that pregnancy was going to somehow make that better?? Prior to finding out I was pregnant, I was a drinker, smoker, as well as a daily pot smoker. I quit all immediately. I allow myself a coke or cup of coffee every few days. I am doing all I can to eat better and take care of myself. The one thing that makes me fly into a rage is if he gets drunk. I have asked him over and over to not get drunk. He continues to do so, continues to smoke, basically changed his life in no way. I have not slept already since finding out because I cannot smoke marijuana and so therefore just stare at the ceiling listening to my disgusting husband snore like a chainsaw. I know this and basically everything will only get worse. My husband is not compassionate, understanding, sensitive, and only sees himself as a victim to my horrible horrible bitchy abuse. He wouldn't dream of researching or trying to educate himself about what I am going thru, even though when I had to check him into a mental clinic a few months ago for him being depressed and suicidal ( struggles with both since childhood, also had problems with alcohol) I stood by his side and supported him,marrying him anyway and assuring him I would see him thru his struggles, I even did tons of research on how to deal with someone with depression,I get NONE of that support in return. Only get told I am a horrible bitch. He disgusts me, I hate him, and fear that I have made a horrible mistake!!!!!! He even lit a cigarette in our house and mockingly blew smoke in my face, and basically told me I was going to give myself a miscarriage because I am such a bitch!! GOD HELP US!!

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    1. his attitude is pretty brutal, and this is coming from a guy(not sure how I even got onto this page really). One thing I question does your husband have incentive to get his shit together, because from the sounds of it he uses all the drugs, alcohol etc as a coping mechanism. As for the snoring breath strips are your friend, or a heavy pillowcase(smack him repeatedly see how he likes being kept up). Keep trying to improve yourself and keep the info you gathered in mind, you might be better off leaving the guy if that's the treatment you are going to receive the rest of your life.

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    2. The heightened hearing and smell is from the hormones as well, people who use steroids etc have the same symptoms.

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  78. oh lord..thank GOD my husband is military and has been absent during 98 percent of my pregnancy. we have a 2 yr old together already and he went through that with me..but this pregnancy is absolutely HORRIBLE. Im such a huge bitch and would probably have kicked him down the stairs..I do miss him like crazy though. but I know how I can be :O. and to the ladies with the worthless husbands/boyfriends..leave em..you are better off doing it by yourself with LESS aggrivation than hoping and praying they will change..they won't. or maybe you could beat them while they are sleeping because a loser is a loser is a loser.. anyways, good luck to you ladies i've got 3 weeks left then im free of the achy hips and hemorhoids!

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  79. LMAO, I too love my bbB to death, ...until the start of this week. Im 37 weeks along today and Im miserable. Iv decided A) I hate him and B)The baby of our dreams Iv carried with his kindness, love, support and reassurance for that last 8.5 months is now.. HIS FAT ASS KID! Good god, I am praying this is all last ditch hormones cos I suddenly have been smacked over the head with the misery stick and as far as I can tell its all his fault. I have the most venomous rage pent up in me that I wanna tear his stupid face off for even looking at me. As I have two children already I had to give up my one and only link to my Identity this week, my University course (where we met :) I had to give up anyway, but he left without me on Monday :-( it was either walk there in the snow, or jack it in until ... probably whenever! I mean its not like its important ITS ONLY MY EFFIN DEGREE!!!!! He BTW took himself off to Uni and couldn't wait 20 mins for me to take my son to school to give me a lift apparently! Not only that but suddenly the only insight I seem to be entitled to in his life is over hearing telephone conversations with his ex wife! Furthermore he also isnt satisfied with the freedom he has to complete his degree, go out when and where he wants with his mate for drinks, sleep soundly and comfortably at night, whinge about his carnal and intimate needs, go to karate once a week SUDDENLY>>SUDDENLY at 37 weeks into pregnancy he thinks he should become a Karate trainer so he will be buggering off on friday nights too!!! Dont get me wrong, I usually wouldnt begrudge him anything in the world.. I just hope these feelings of resentment and incredulous rage subside and we can continue to look forward to our perfect perfect beautiful baby boy we are supposed to be having and my poxy feelings are ruining. I wish I could say this to his face. Thanks for listening x x x

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  80. AnonymousJune 05, 2013

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  81. AnonymousJune 07, 2013

    omg... I am 9 weeks and can completely relate. I always feel guilty for wanting to pinch his head off, then he does or says something that pisses me off again. Good to know i'm not the only one! Thank you so much for posting this!

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  82. AnonymousJune 12, 2013

    If only I had found out and read about this blog earlier , perhaps my GF wouldn't have left me with 3 more weeks to delivery , I dont understand what happen then , is been 7 months since she started hating me and distancing herself , I just kept on bugging her till she drop me the death sentence 3 days ago. The first pregnancy everything went well , how would I expect the 2nd one breaks all hell loose

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  83. AnonymousJune 28, 2013

    Give a break to get a break.
    It's either that or divorce.
    I feel for both of you, however, does your husband have a blog "I hate my wife?" I'm sure he'd feel more than insulted seeing this, and how you describe him. Divorce material.
    Pretty disrespectful situation you both have here.

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    1. Actually, we do have a new blog we write together! http:www.firsttimemomanddad.com and one of the most viewed and loved posts on that blog is called "My Marital Bliss" http://www.firsttimemomanddad.com/2013/03/my-marital-bliss-ftd-post.html

      It's all about the things I do to Piss HIM off! We have a great marriage because we are open about our feelings and communicate. This post was all in cheeky fun, I am sorry you failed to recognize that... but luckily my husband did... Cheers!

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  84. AnonymousJune 30, 2013

    Im 35 weeks and I too feel like slapping the crap out of my partner. He sees im in pain but just sits there staring like ann incompetent ass. He has a utility crew cab pick up truck and do think he even as much as helps me in or out of it? Of course not. He's 32 going on 12. I'm finding myself more and more miserable and regretful of becoming pregnant but nobody knows. Id never admit regret to my friends or family. But I literally do everything myself. I've assembled all the baby furniture, cook,laundry, clean, make him lunch for work, and run errands for him. But I ask for tums or something while he's on his way home from work and he whines or just doesn't respond to my texts. Prior to pregnancy, he NEVER acted like this. All he does is work 247 or goes out with friends never including me. Am I losing it or am I just hormonally Challenged!? I cry a lot bc of how he makes me feel. Like a lot. He's very emotionally unsupportive and I'm considering not even allowing him in the L&D room when our son is born. Sometimes just when I think he's redeemed himself he just does or says something completely rude and insensitive again. I'm unsure how to handle him anymore. Please help! -Jenna

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    1. Oh momma... It is not easy being pregnant, and to not feel support from your partner is hell and a half on top of pregnancy. I am sorry and feel your pain! I know for me and my husband we were both so afraid of becoming parents that we misdirected the fear on everything and refused to really admit to it.

      s for your crying and hormones.. totally normal! and it's hard for your partner to be around you when you have for the most part changed into this hormonal crying food craving preggo... which is truly bullshit because this is not your choice! You are going though so much growing his human, yet most partners forget to stop thinking about themselves long enough to realize that you are miserable and it is not your fault and if they would just be sweet and kind for five minutes a day the world would be a better place!

      I recommend telling him that you are feeling out of whack, and hormonal but it's not your fault, and that you are trying like hell to be normal, but it is difficult without his support. It gets better I promise, but parenting is not easy, so the two of you need to open the line of communication now!

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    2. AnonymousJune 30, 2013

      Thank-you for responding. I'm counting down to the day of delivery! He's on a short rope god help him if he *%sses me off that day or the nursing staff will be getting a show! Lol

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  85. AnonymousJuly 08, 2013

    Thank you. This is the funniest thing I've read my entire pregnancy. LOL! I am 21 weeks, and want to slap my spouse in the face... though I would never.

    I thought the first three months were hard while my body adjusted to the new hormones. But the past few weeks, I have become more and more annoyed I keep thinking, what did I ever see in him. It's actually a difficult thought, because I do really love him. I keep thinking doesn't he understand that I need things my way right now... I should be pampered. Point blank, that's it. Anyway thank you for posting this, and also the name we have picked is Oliver "Ollie"... love the name! ;))

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  86. AnonymousJuly 21, 2013

    i feel you on this... im 33 weeks and i loathe my husband right now.. We have a 3 year old and just recently moved to a new house but I am the only one taking care of our toddler and the unpacking stuff!!Lifting heavy stuff, laundry, diapers, taking the garbage out, grocery shopping, etc. Everyday all I want to do is rip his head off lololol

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  87. Every now and then I come back to this site just to attempt and regain whatever sanity I still may have. Its not always "us" and our "hormones". Its a combo of dealing with physical pain and dealing with an asshat man child. I'm now 38 weeks pregnant and this whole entire pregnancy I've dealt with a very emotionallyand physically detached/distant bf. I get zero affection unless I try to initiate it. Sex? What's that? Compliments? Pff, yeah right. He never tells me I look nice or gives me any reason to feel wanted or needed. I find myself feeling very alone, trapped and just not wanted. I haven't worked throughout the entire pregnancy and I solely rely on him. His motto is he thinks bc he works and pays the bills ( not my personal bills) that I should just be happy " I get that" and that he shouldn't have to deal with my "excessive crying " about him not being emotionally there for me. I feel so neglected, overwhelmed and scared. I'm a good person and try really hard to earn my keep around here by cleaning, doing laundry, cooking but I'm so close to my due date and I just don't have energy. But I'm sick of picking up his goddamn messes and having to twist his arm just to lift a heavy washbasket or rub my back. The person I fell in love with is not the same guy now that were expecting. And it wasn't an oops pregnancy either. I just dunno what to do or how to think. And everyone seems to make an excuse for him being such an ass. Oh he's prob "nervous " well guess what? This is my 1st child... how do they think I freakin feel? Its no picnic. How can a soon to be first time father act so stupid towards the one carrying his baby? He says he loves me everyday but doesn't think he has to show it. I'm boggled. And just beyond the point of even expecting him to wake the hell up and open his eyes. I hope nobody else is or has gone through this. Its heartbreaking.

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    1. Ugh. I hate to say it, but....you are on target with everything at 38 weeks. The fear, discomfort and hormones should be off the charts. Yes, your BF is prob scared too. Most likely if he is a 38 an Child Asshat, then he is freaking out! Still, no excuse for being emotionally unavailable during a time you desperately need support and encouragement. And just saying I love you is enough is just plain ridiculous!

      but, worry not... this time next month, you will be so needed, and so loved and so important. Your world and heart will be forever changed. For the better. When that beautiful baby is placed on your chest, nothing else in this world will matter than that sweet baby. As for the BF, hopefully he will feel the same, and he will see that your 10 months of emotions, hormones, fear and the other millions of things, will finally make sense to him, YOU GREW HIS CHILD!!

      My husband wanted our son more than anything. he was 41 and sure he was never going to have children. Still, we rode the roller coaster, had the arguments you are having and then some! becoming parents is terrifying. The responsibility of it all makes you doubt yourself and each other to a ridiculous degree. Thankfully it is almost over and the two of you can move on to a whole different dynamic, diapers, and sleepless nights! ...and the greatest love of your life...

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  88. mine seems to do nothing but eat! we are fighting because I made my son a cup of hot chocolate ( made with milk) two days in a row. yesterday he was bitching about the milk going too fast (I have been drinking more of it since I'm 16 weeks pregnant). he tried to say I waste all the milk on my son because I make him hot chocolate 6-8 times a day!!! that is complete bs...I have made him a total of 2 cups ( since last winter, of course). he is such a liar. it's okay though if his 17 yr old daughter (my step daughter) asks for a cup of milk. he says " it's not like she eats cereal in the morning"...(my 10 yr old son does). big deal. kids eat cereal. the only reason he even asked for a cup of hot chocolate two days in a row ( it's summer time) is because he wanted to drink it while watching the movie Polar Express, and pretend it was winter. I got so upset because he's a liar that I went to the emergency room because I was having bad cramps. I heard the heart beat, and my son got to see the baby on the ultrasound. well, that was last night. I didn't eat anything all day today and as soon as I drank some water, I started vomiting. then I vomited a second time. keep in mind that my vomiting from morning sickness has been gone for at least 3wks. anyway, I ate a few min ago and have not vomited. I was very worried that my stress is going to cause me to have a miscarriage. stupid men.
    and he wonders why I am psycho.
    -heather

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    1. I'm 13 weeks, and weigh like 90 pounds, age 22. I always stress about miscarriage because of how men seem to have to have the power and control in the relationship! My child deserves better than that shit!

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  89. oh, forgot to mention that I did take a zofran right before I ate.
    -heather

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  90. 22 weeks and oh hes so annoying! Everything about him makes me go in a mood. Cry and think if id be happier without him.reading this makes me feel better but f**** I just want him 2stop pi**** me off!!!! Any way of dealing with it?

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    1. Buy him a copy of GTAV and you won't see him for a couple of months!

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  91. Destiny MarkAugust 22, 2014

    how can i make my husband to listen and take me for who i am again

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