Jul 23, 2011

I HATE BEING PREGNANT!!!! Rainbows and Unicorns... WTF?

I know I must sound awful. I know "Hate" is a strong word. I also know that I have been blessed with such a wonderful gift. BUT BUT BUT!!!! I can still loathe the shit out of my insanely uncomfortable pregnancy. Suck it forum princess I said it, I AM SICK AND TIRED OF BEING SICK AND TIRED OF PREGNANCY! > : P

The only thing that makes me more sick than my pregnancy, is those women who "LOVED being pregnant!" OMG I don't want to hear it anymore. I also don't want to hear "it will get better." It sucks right now and that's all I have to say! I am 33 years old and 2 months pregnant. YES! I have 7 bloody months left! It freaking better get better!

I know one thing is for sure, it won't stay better. I have heard the first 3 months suck (which they do) the next three are great (remains to be seen/felt) and the last three are awful (don't doubt it.)

So far here are my top five observations of the first 2 months of pregnancy...

1. Morning sickness my constantly growing buttocks! More like morning, noon & night sickness!  

2. The new found stupidity called "baby brain." My friend's husband says it's really from the baby stealing the mother's brain while it's growing in the belly... It's true. So far I stuck the freshly cut up watermelon in the microwave, the cereal box in the refrigerator, completely forgot where I was driving to, and that's just the last 72 hours!

3. Another of my pregnancy favorites is peeing 100+ times a day... with 90 of those times being between the hours of 10pm and 8am. I didn't really want to get a good nights sleep and stop being a bitch anyway.

4. RAGING HORMONES!! I have hysterically screamed, cried, and laughed all in a 3 minute period. WTF??

5. For some reason my pregnancy has shined a new light on my husband. I can now see that he is annoying, smelly, stupid, an inconsiderate jerk, a fool and a child. How did I not recognize these unforgiving traits before I married him. I am having a child with a child!! SHIT!!


 The list goes on and on... and freaking on, I just don't want to cry all over my computer and blow it up with pregnancy tears... I have a few months to continue to tell you about it, so stay tuned.

Who knows maybe it will get better.... Rainbows and Unicorns... Whatever says, my Rainbow Bright Ass!!!









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81 comments:

  1. I am right there with you. I am 33 and sick as a dog still in the 11th week. This is my 2nd pregnancy, and somehow, I did forget how bad it is. The other day I knew I had to eat something, my husband asked what I wanted, and I just burst out crying about how I didn't want to eat anything. I do remember from the first time that I reached a point where food tasted good again, really good, better than ever. I think it was around 5 months.Right now that seems like a mirage!

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    1. I too am 11 weeks pregnant and miserable.My 4th and unplanned pregnancy and feel sooo trapped.I cannot work, excercise can barely sit up to watch tv.My own saliva makes me vomit so I have to constantely spit.Hard to have a conversation without dry reaching.Been to hospital,put on medication docs give to chemo patients.People with pathetic unhelpful suggestions dont get it.If someone suggests I take ginger once more I will slap them. I dont mind having to give things up but to not be able to function with the basics is unbearable. Without health you have nothing. So unfair on my other children but they help me sooo much and is what gets me through every unbearable minute. They love and need me and this 4th unborn unfinished baby needs me too. just cant wait to know waht its like to quench my thirst again.Hang in there too and thanks for this site.

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    2. Wow never really hear about anyone else talk about there saliva making them sick. I had this problem with my first kid and it lasted the entire 9 months. I once again have the same problem and I am only 10 weeks pregnant so have a long way to go. I didn't want a another kid after feeling sick the entire time with my first but I stupidly let my husband convince me every pregnancy is different. Boy was he wrong! I hate all food again but I am hungry. I have no energy and drool like crazy but if I swallow my spit I feel even more sick then I already do spitting it out. I can't even brush my teeth without vomiting. and this one is new I hate the smell of everything even soaps and shampoo. He better hope this is another boy like he wants because after this I am done. if it's not a boy then he can go knock someone else up.

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    3. Oh goodness, my dear...I am glad I found all you ladies. The main post was quite hilarious..I am right on board. I'm almost 31 weeks pregnant and miserable. I can't stand my own morning breath but I also can't stand to brush my teeth. Nausea sets in early. My blood sugar keeps dropping and I feel cranky. I cry because my husband puts dishes in the sink where they belong, I just hate doing them right now. My legs cramp just when I get into a deep sleep at night. I enjoy baby movements but not when my bladder gets punched. My husband also tries to be funny at the worst moments when I feel enraged. And sometimes when I have to wake up to iron his work shirts I wanna throw them in his face and yell at him to get up and do it himself. But I love the guy. He has been so patient and loving. But this pregnancy has driven me crazy. I want to be strong and independent again. Not fat and helpless...Ladies look at it this way. We already one up our husbands because we can feel like shit and still do it all. They don't go through what we do but we have to give them credit for their efforts... And its true not all pregnancies are the same. Compared to my last 2, this one makes me feel the worst. :'( im gonna go cry now. Good luck mommies

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    4. I am mostly posting on here because I simply need to vent and venting to strangers is probably better than upsetting people I know. I feel like there are several people (mainly coworkers) that do not understand how crappy I feel most of the time. I am 12 weeks pregnant and while I certainly have enjoyed being pregnant for the most part, I am sick and tired of my nosey coworkers that are 25 years older than me acting like they know exactly how I feel or that I really don't feel that bad. My boss comments today that she is concerned about me in a personal sense, because she doesn't know how I'm going to handle being up with a baby during the night if I can't handle being tired right now. She basically said that I'm not going to get any sleep for the next five years and she doesn't understand how I'm going to deal with that. It makes me so angry! Duh! Of course I know that having a baby and caring for a baby will be exhausting. But, at least I won't be carrying a baby in my stomach then. I think I try to rest more now for the baby's sake, then I even do for my own. The fact that I'm going to be tired for the next five years is NOT what I need to hear right now when I am exhausted all the time. I don't think they understand or remember that being tired while being pregnant is not just a normal tired. It is a bone weary, I feel like I can't function any more tired. I work full-time and am also very active in church organizations and often have events such as practices and meetings that I have to attend in the evenings as well. It is downright exhausting and hard to keep up right now. My best time is in the morning, so I try to get things done then. Then I HAVE to go to work and by the time I get home from work I am completely spent most of the time. My other co-workers are just nosey and constantly checking on me if I take a day off or come in late a couple hours. They ask if I had a "hard evening" or if I didn't get enough rest. Then if I am more quiet or just don't feel like talking, then they keep asking me what's wrong. I want to say, "If I have a problem, I'll let you know. Otherwise, leave me alone." It drives me crazy because they are constantly watchiing me and act like they know everything because they had one child 30 some odd years ago. Thankfully, my DH has been very understanding. It is just hard coming to work and being discouraged and having to deal with this everyday. Okay, starting to feel better now.

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    5. Ladies, let me just say I have enjoyed reading your posts. Thank you all. I thought I was the only one hating being pregnant. We tried to get pregnant for 5 years, finally we did a round of IVF, which was time consuming, painful and exhausting. It worked though. The first 2 months I was ecstatic, then came month 3, morning sickness, dizziness, headaches, extreme fatigue etc...one the couch for two months. Then during my 6 month I got achy and tight and very uncomfortable on a daily basis. Now 7 months, still very uncomfortable, insomnia, can't breath, backaches, etc. I am miserable. I hate telling people how miserable I really am because this is suppose to be such a happy time. And those woman who tell me how much they loved being pregnant, if I hear that one more time....,errrrrrrr.

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  2. I totally cried those same tears!!! I'm 14 weeks now and eating my second bagel of the day b/c thats all I want. While I'm not sick All Day, just when I wake up and after dinner and prenantals, food still is not great to say the least. Hopefully only a few more weeks to go!

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  3. I love your blog! I'm 18 weeks pregnant with #2. I look foward to reading your posts!!

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  4. Thank you So much, AMW90! Somedays I wonder if I'm just making a fool of myself and talking to air... I am jealous of you for being one child and 3 weeks a head of me!! Congratulations two times over!

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  5. I am so happy I'm nit the only one dreading their pregnancy. Everyone has their own thoughts and opinions about how happy I should be about a life growing inside of me. It really makes me want to punch someone. For someone like me who has already been hospitalized twice for dehydration in my pregnancy it is not hard to say that I will be elated once this its over! And I pray I don't have morning sickness all nine months because I just may cry

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  6. Sister, you are so not alone! Growing a human is not easy and for some... LOTS... it SUCKS! I get comments all day long, some I cannot post because of the language, lol, but pregnancy is hard on our bodies, hormones, relationships and so much more. I am happy for the women who "love" it but that is just not me, right now! I hope and pray soon I will Love it... I'll let you know ; )

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  7. I'm with you! We tried for 2 years so don't get me wrong, I'm happy that it finally happend, but I hate the all day nausua, the puking, the gas and constipation the utter exaustion I feel all the time! It sucks! I love my baby! But I hate my symptoms!

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  8. Yeah. Im glad i am not the only one who hates being pregnant. I am six months pregnant. Most of the time i feel it will be a miracle if i make it to the end. I love and want my baby but im so miserable. The naueasa is still with me. The back pain can be unbearable. I feel like a whale. Ugh hemroids. Peeing constantly. The tirededness. The days i cant sleep at alll. The baby kicking so hard i want to cry. Of course u cant forget the constant gas.

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  9. I thought i was alone. I never heard of someone else complaining about pregnancy as much as i do. I HATE IT so much. This is my second. I thouht it would be diffeent since must other people say all pregnancies are different. Well they are in a way but not in the level of sickness i havr experienced. This is hell for me. I cannot eat anything, i have my usual migraines and it sucks not to be able to take my regular medicines which are the only onds that work. Tylenol is crap. I am moody, mad, depressed, sick, with low energy, nauseated, with pain everywhere in my body. I am out of breath and get smothered. This is my 8 week. I have 30+ weeks of misery to go. I am scared because next month i foresee that strong sharp needle pain feeling in the lower back as with my first pregnancy. I really am extremely miserable and no wonder i didnt want to be pregnant in the last 11 yrs since my first one, but my second husband wanted one child and there i go as an idiot trying to please him so he coukd experience being a dad. I should have kniwn i would experience the same hell and now i cant take it anymore. I dont want to sound like a horrible person, but truly there are some few of us that were not meant for this because of all of the pain and worst symothoms we must experience compared to other women that i am recentful with for loving being pregnant. I dont know how the heck can they feel so content and why do i have to experience this pain and suffering. :(

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  10. "nobody stays pregnant forever" I cannot tell you how much that got me through, coupled with "this to shall pass" I survived another day...

    Today I am 37 weeks and 4 days. It's almost over and I cannot wait! I don't know if I will be able to do this again, baby amnesia or not! But, take heart it gets better...

    In fact if your pregnancy is anything like mine, it will break down like this... Weeks 8-16 are full on hell... 16-22 are like the slide down hill. 23-30 are easy enough and for the most part bad symptom free! 31-38 while the kicks come during this time it's when It gets crappy again... Still, I got used it... And now I'm already looking forward to being my old self and taking two stairs at a time in normal jeans!

    You can do this mamma... Trust me, if I can do it, anyone can!! Xx all the very best to you and you family!

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  11. Thankyou, i really hope it will be over soon. :) i also wish you the best since you are almost over with this. Im sure you will enjoy every moment afterwards. I know i will be scared once it is my turn. I have never enjoyed needles and im an extremely nervous person. But if you must, dont forget to get the spinal shot which really helps. Good luck!

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  12. I know that I am sooo late in responding to this blog....I am 24 and 11w 6d prego with my frist and last child. I was literally fine up until about 7w....then it all went down hill from there. I used all my vacation and sick time due to being sick all day....luckily I was on winter break from school when I found out that I was pregnant so i didnt miss any class...this semester has been very tough for me. I find myself falling asleep in class...FML!!! I love FOOD and to not be able to eat just really hurts my feelings. i feel bad for my BF cause I haven't cooked in almost 2 months! I know my attitude is horrible...I am just ready to be over this already. I have 6 more months of this....and I am not ready for what is to come! All I can say is I ENVY those who have no morning sickness at all....and KUDDOS to those women who have numerous children!!

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    1. Nah... It's never to late to hate being pregnant! Besides you may be early... if I decide to do this/ am blessed again, I have no doubt I'll write all over agin!

      All the very best to you! I promise I gets better, somewhere between 16 and 42 weeks. :0

      XX

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    2. Thank you so much for your kind words!! It's so good to know that there are others who feel the same way I do. I hate talking and seeing my friends who are prego and can eat whatever they want....the only advice they can give me is "it's ok" but yet they haven't experienced it at all!!! Yikes!!

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    3. AnonymousJuly 08, 2013

      I am 25 weeks pregnant with 4th child...last one 11 years ago..and i feel exhausted and worried...groin pain is terrible..moody as hell..just want to lay in bed

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  13. I feel the same way. I hate being fat, all the weight I've gained. I can't even look at my body in the mirror anymore! And I'm only 18 weeks. I'm sick and tired all the time. I can't sleep at night. Everything just sucks when you are pregnant. I cry all the time!

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  14. I'm 17 weeks with my first, and I'm really not enjoying the physical part of it. I don't care about the weight gain, but I've completely lost control of my body. I was eating right and exercising regularly before I got pregnant, and I felt great, but that is all gone. The second trimester sucks less than the first now that the barfies are mostly gone, but I still can't really eat anything but carbs and get random nausea and upset stomach. I have no energy, can't sleep, and I want to punch anyone who tells me I'm "glowing". I'm happy to be having a baby, but I hate being pregnant and I can't wait for this to be over so I can have my body back. Thanks for listening!

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    1. My pleasure! You actually listened to me first reading my blog. lol The second trimester is much better than the first. By 20-22 weeks you will actually feel semi close to human!

      All the very best to you! Stop by to chat anytime. Xx

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  15. AnonymousMay 10, 2012

    I'm so glad I found this blog because most women would look at me like I have 3 heads if I told them I HATE being pregnant. It makes it even harder because this pregnancy was unplanned and at the very beginning unwanted. It is my 4th pregnancy :/. I have had horrible acid reflux and now short of breath all the time. I just want my old self back.

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  16. I Hate Being Pregnant!! I am 14 weeks with my first and last child!! I never get sick and now have been sick for two straight months which is why I think Im really having a hard time. I am nauseous 24hours a day since week 7, I dont sleep, pee every 2hours, im dizzy ALL the time,and I am beyond constipated, I am going once every 12 days on average, I am so sick of everyone telling me to drink more water and eat more fruit I do!! And nothing works!! If I knew this was going to be this bad I would have thought twice. I am hoping this gets better soon, I truly do not feel like I will live to the end! I wish there was something to help me! My husband is ready to commit me I think hehe :)

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    1. Oh you ate not alone!! I swear I would eat a field of grapes to poop once. Water was not happening because I think it made me more nauseous, unless it was ice cold, sparkling water was all I could drink. All I can say is that it really is so worth it!!

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    2. AnonymousMay 20, 2016

      I'm so grateful to find this blog. I am MISERABLE.I am in week 7 and there is NO F-ing way i am doing this again. I HATE BEING PREGNANT. I also feel like I can't be honest about it, and obviously we are not even supposed to tell anyone. I've never felt so alone in my entire life, and I feel like there is something wrong with me.

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  17. OMG this is too funny. I hear ya ladies. I hate every minute of this and so tired of people looking at me like im insane when i dont say how much i love it. Now that i am 33 weeks i am even more direct as i have lost all my filters and actually say to people "this sucks adn i want my body back" forgtet trying to make it sound all sunshine and lollipops cause it isnt- i cant wait to get back to the gym and my brain returing to normal

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  18. i feel like i found the place i belong, all the women at work and home tell me i am crazy, i am so lucky. dont get me wrong, i am happy to be having a baby, but this will be my first and last. i want to poop more than anything in the world right now, i would take that over money, over sleep....and men wonder why we have "new" attitudes when we are pregnant. TRY NOT POOING IN A WEEK!!!!

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    1. Oh sister. Welcome home. I ate grapes by the pounds washed down with gallons of water for my once a month regularity!

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  19. omg it made me feel GREAT reading this! Finally someone else who feels the way I feel! I am so sick of being pregnant!! I'm at 32 weeks and apart from maybe 3 or 4 weeks in the middle of it all (when the morning sickness eased and the weight hadn't started dragging me down!), I haven't enjoyed being pregnant at all! I love my baby and canT' wait to see him, but I am so sick of ppl telling me to enjoy this moment because it's the best moment ever! Even my mother-in-law is saying how this is the best moment of my life and how she'd love to be pregnant again! WHAT?! urghh neway...thanks for this! :)

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  20. Urgh... is it cooked yet?September 23, 2012

    I'm soooo glad I found these!! No one else seems to understand at all! All I hear is your not ill or disabled your pregnant.... or 'if so and so can do it, so can you'! Well anyways im 22w 3d and just about had enough. I cry at literally everything, I have bad dreams about my baby EVERY night and already leak milk which is quite frankly, disgusting! I loved the comment above about realising my other half annoys the frigging hell out of me and also the comment about hows the baby?! These I can completely agree with! I know my baby is worth it and all I can say is, those who struggle with pregnancy will deal with birth so much better right.... I mean... its worth the pain to put an end to this horrific 40 weeks?! :) x

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  21. Oh my god, this is just what I needed to read. So far with this "miraculous journey" I have gotten a kidney infection, a kidney stone, a thyroid disorder, a torn muscle and lactating already at 25 weeks, WTF?!? MILK STAY IN THERE TIL BABY COMES PLEASE! I literally cried my eyes out when I looked down at my saturated shirt. Another 15 weeks? Feels like a freaking eternity...

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    1. Ugh! Lactating already! Boo! Not so miraculously wonderful I know. Sucks. But I promise worth the shits and few giggles in the long run. Xx

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  22. 14 weeks and OVER IT! Vomited nearly 200 times in the last 6 weeks, constipated from the morning sickness meds, bloated (which people are mistaking for baby when it's just poo and gas) and so unbelievably sick of people suggesting morning sickness cures. DON'T YOU THINK AFTER 6 WEEKS I HAVE TRIED BLOODY WELL EVERYTHING. I can only imagine the advice will get even more annoying once I pop this sucker out... Yes tell me "morning sickness will pass and it will all be worth it" again please because that's what gets me thru when I'm chucking up what little I can drink and eat... Love this blog, thanks for the vent!!!

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  23. I completely feel this post. Sadly, I'm only 7.5 weeks pregnant and already I'm so sick of it, I can't believe it. I have to eat constantly to prevent myself from getting sick, and my boobs have gotten HUGE and my stomach already looks pregnant ALL the time because of how extremely bloated I am 24/7. I really don't know how I'm going to get through 40 weeks. Really, truly this is awful. And the fatigue and moodiness is just plain awful. Ugh.

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    1. AnonymousMay 15, 2013

      I am so glad others feel like me cos I was starting to feel really bad, but I hate this pregnancy! I am nearly 9 weeks and can't stand this to the point of thinking not to continue with it. I have just started sorting out my life after having 3 kids and staying at home with them and don't want to be held back again! My partner works long hours so I don't have a lot of support even though he tries we have had a lot of problems of lately. Feeling so ill all the time doesn't help and is making me feel I can't cope. Please tell me it gets better and life can still go on after because I didn't experience this with my other children. I just want to be happy or at least alittle like I was with my others.

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  24. It is such a relief to read these posts and think I'm not being selfish considering there are loads of people I know who are trying to get pregnant but can't, I am only 7 weeks pregnant and I feel so sick. For me it's more than just feeling sick all day and not eating/can't eat etc it's ruining my life, I have started thinking about things that normal people DON'T think about especially as I should be so happy and loving my pregnancy.. errr NOT. I am now in fear of losing my job as I can't go to work because I'm terrified of being sick all over the place or feeling so ill I can't move, all though I haven't actually been sick yet I am only 7 weeks and apparently your horrible symptoms peak around weeks 8 and 9, so just great, what have you got to look forward too? If it's not feeling sick all day long it's constant peeing, then aches and pains and everything bloody else. To me it seems like quite an unfair bargain considering actually giving birth is supposed to be the single most painful thing you will ever do but us lucky ladies have 9 months of hell to go with it :'( I think I am regretting getting pregnant at all.

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    1. AnonymousMay 15, 2013

      Hi there, just wanted to know how things were going with you now. Please tell me there much better lol. I am 9 weeks and really can't cope with this pregnancy.

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    2. OH Girl, that was exactly when I lost my shot and started this blog! It gets better... in like 8 months. ; ) Sparkling water, crackers, flip flops sun dresses and a huge warning to you SO that shit is about to get crazy! Also, you maybe feeling a bit scared about becoming a mother in the first place. FInd a walking buddy too!

      You can do it!!!

      hugs.

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  25. AnonymousMay 12, 2013

    i am under 20 weeks but close to that dreaded and with the awful way i already feel like less than a human being and hate being told anything going on and even looking at the individual on the screen ... am declining it... i am sick of being around gushing people and being told to perk up and i break down most days

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  26. Thank you I love you and im forever thankful that you posted exactly what I was thinking.

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    1. Oh Emilee... Pregnancy SUCKS!! But you are growing an incredibly amazing little you inside you belly, so think of it as the whole Hard Work Pays off thing... and when that doesn't make you feel better, just remember... This Too Shall Pass! xx Congratulations momma, it really is so so so worth it.

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  27. AnonymousMay 25, 2013

    This cheered me up for a few mins after a horrid crying fit in the shower of how miserable I am. I am a ftm and 28w. I had morning sickness at 6 weeks to around 13 weeks and it was so bad I needed meds for it. My boobs go up 3 whole cup sizes to F's before I was even 4 months along!! I get sick with a cold for over a month and a half along with strep throat and lost my voice for 2 and half weeks! I have really bad carpol tunnle where it hurts to use a fork! Now I have gestational diabetes and have to watch everything I eat and prick my finger to test my blood 4 times a day! I also have hemorroids for the first time in my life! I feel like such hell and see no end to this. I almost truely regret getting pregnant, if it wasnt for this child at the end of it I don't know what I would do. I just want to punch everyone just for breathing I'm so miserable. I just want to feel normal again. ='(

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  28. This is just the blog I was looking for :) PRAISE THE LORD! I am 7.5 weeks pregnant and let me tell you, I could NOT WAIT to get pregnant, BUT not I am biting my words and wondering if this was the right thing. I HATE being pregnant.
    I was dealing with some anxiety issues before I got pregnant, but have been trying to work on them with a therapist. I feel the anxiety is now under control, but wonder if I have developed depression as I know the two go hand in hand. I am tired and really have no desire to do anything. But once again, this could just be the pregnant talking.
    Quick background: I am 29..a PRO fitness model..personal trainer..and have to be in control of my body. Going into this I thought I would be ok..but boy was I wrong :( Workouts have been going pretty good, it's more or less the not eating what I normally would in order to stay on track. This drives me INSANE! I am hungry, but not for anything particular and most things look disgusting to me.
    I feel I have a long 32 weeks ahead of me :(

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  29. Hi ladies, I'm 18 weeks 3 days today and I came across this post. Truthfully I'm semi ok now but not too long ago I was hating my life. As for right now, I still pee 30million x per night, I'm very tired, back pain sucks, I'm annoyed to shit by annoying things and people, I don't feel like doing anything, and I'm out of breath climbing 2 steps, but overall I think I'm doing 50 million x better than I was doing up until 14 weeks. My first 14 weeks were sheer hell! I dry heaved all day long, puked all the time, couldn't poop for weeks, I could smell each item as soon as I walked into the local Walmart from their tires and automotive products, to produce, to linens, cosmetics, to animal food, etc... I hated everyone and everything, I couldn't brush my teeth without throwing up, I'm a foodie and couldn't stand food and felt bad that I couldn't go grocery shopping or cook anything for my hubby- he was on his own completely in the kitchen, the constant peeing, lack of sleep, and the list goes on and on! I also hated on the women who gushed at being pregnant and I couldn't understand how any woman in her right mind would put herself through this (pregnancy) multiple times! To me those women seemed sadistic!! Well thankfully I DO feel much better now. Just someone nuances that I mentioned previously but I'm slowly starting to love my growing baby bump and loving the slight movements that I feel. I think I'm falling in love with the baby finally. I'm sure I will go through yet another range of emotions as enter the 3rd trimester like "get this friggin thing out of me already", but I'm sure at the end of it all I will love that baby like no other. This is why our own moms tell us to love and appreciate them because I'm sure we put them all through hell as well. I wish you all the best! Have healthy pregnancies and beautiful babies and remember you are not alone!!
    Xo
    Ags

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  30. Kara of course :)November 29, 2013

    Yay Momma, I'm back!!!! I loved this.place unpregnant, but I honestly hope with this being the 3rd time I don't have to relate so well to your posts! Lol

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  31. So I'm not crazy!!! well not completely I guess :) I am 7 weeks 4 days with my 4th! (ok a bit crazy) my first was ok, new to the whole thing and young, it was all so cool. a couple months ago my husband and I decided on one last babe, he's got the easy part damn it! I hated being pregnant about 85% of the time with my other two and this one I swear I have slept and peed the last 2 months away!!! this better get better, cause I am not looking forward to a long cold winter of misery, and neither is my family! the mood swings will kill us all.

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  32. Anyone out there still? I am 9 weeks pregnant. I am SO TIRED of people saying "It will all be worth it in the end." I am not a fan of infants. I don't understand them and am terrified of the stress that will come along with feeding constantly and everything else. So, it doesn't end once the birth comes…and what if the baby is colicky? How fun will that be? I am so afraid of losing myself, my dreams and my goals and giving up so much for this baby. It's difficult to want and not want something at the same time. No one understands.

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    1. I understand as I am now 18 weeks with no major issues except severe allergies that have literally made me house bound. I cannot go outside without getting sick with one hospital visit so far from upper respiratory infections, sinus infections, and asthma attacks. It will not get better once I have this bundle of joy that will need me all the time. I love toddlers newborns not so much. I have lost my career and dreams for this miserable experience so I understand. There is never enough sacrifices and you are always taken for granted but my husband gets to keep everything again. It has been a very miserable, and frustrating experience so far I am not sure I want sometimes, I just want to breath again. If I hear, "It will be worth it in the end." I am going to slap who says it!

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  33. Oh April, I'm back to reading this blog so I don't feel so alone. I wish you were doing this the second time around with me. 12 weeks and 6 days today.. This afternoon I completely snapped for no reason, stormed off to McCafe (only thing close by) and cried into banana bread and a coffee. Good lord, how much longer can this god awful morning sickness/bloating/excess saliva/throat mucus last? I'm so over it. Only 27 weeks to go.. Oh god.

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  34. I'm glad I found this, at least I'm not a lone. I feel like I can't function. I have a very demanding job working with mentally ill clients and am on the road most of the day. It's draining and feels impossible some days, I've been pushing through and am so stressed out. The nausea, baby brain, dizziness, constant peeing, feeling exhausted etc. I cannot believe my dr told me this is not normal and referred me to a psychologist.

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  35. AnonymousJune 18, 2014

    25 weeks today I'm so sick everyday and I cnt eat anything without vomiting I've lost so much weight seriously I hate this

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  36. AnonymousJune 21, 2014

    I am 12 weeks pregnant, always on the internet looking for tips on why I feel like such garbage all the time. I have to say reading these blogs was the best friday night ive had in awhile. I havent laughed that hard in a long time. Thank you ladies for making me feel like im not the only one going crazy!!! Good luck to all

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  37. I'm so miserable also. I have crohns disease and celiac and didn't think it could get worse until I got pregnant. Im sick all day and night I feel hungover all day. They took me off my migraine medicine so literally every other day I have a horrible migraine to the point I cant see. im so depressed and fight with my husband constantly. I have gained way too much weight for my small frame and my dr is worried and im not overeating. I can't wait until January to feel like myself again. I have never been so miserable. I know it will all be ok in the end and im super happy we are having a daughter, jjust wish It could be a little easier than this....

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  38. HA!! Yes I am 36 with the first and last. Yes one and done!! I feel like a fire breathing dragon from every end. Yeah, and for the women who get big boobs well, I did not get that I got bigger lady parts in the southern region bc my babies head is on my cervix. What a shock that was and even if you can still see yourself. My baby is at my back stirring up every nerve in my spinal cord. I loose feeling in my fingers, hands, and arms with shooting, radiating pain in my neck and back. I have 9 more weeks to go and feel like it will never end. Rest how to rest when you get 3 hrs sleep a day bc you are up using the bathroom every hour or just can't get pregnant. Some women love being pregnant but, I question myself if pregnancy makes me feel like this I'm sure others do to.

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  39. I am so miserable I cant stand myself im 29 and 12w and my god I have had heartburn, acid reflux, constant spitting, nausea, vomitting, total lose of energy, shortness of breath, and just being sad and depressed since week 4 of this pregnancy. This is my 4th and last and by far the worst pregnancy I have ever had. My husband and I argue constantly because he doesnt understand just how tired I am I cant clean up or cook it drains me to try and I get dizzy spells. It gets so bad that if I feel like if I were to lose the baby ( not that I would ever do anything purposefully ever!) it would be a relief just to be normal again. We planned this baby so I feel bad complaining but at the same time I feel like im dying. I would go through childbirth for a week straight if it meant I would magically be 40 weeks after. Im so sick of this..

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  40. OMG I am so glad I found this. I'm 33 and 12 weeks with my first. I am so not coping right now, apart from the nausea and constipation I am disgusted with my body, I have always had self image issues and have always controlled it with eating disorders, drugs and just sucking it in but I absolutely loathe my reflection, how could this possibly get better, it's just going to get bigger. I know this is uber selfish but I'm terrified I'm never going to be me again. I don't want to be sweat pants and sloppy Joe mom. I'm so embarresed I can't even tell my friends/Facebook ... Just want to lock myself away =( I am always hungry, always sick, soooo tired and none of my clothes fit already. I know, it's what happens but how do I deal with what I've never been able to cope with psychologically? I can't even imagine how big I'll be at full term and if it will ever go away!! Sorry, guess I just need to pour it out somewhere =/

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  41. sweetnormaMarch 19, 2015

    I feel yea, I am 35 weeks pregnant and yes it did get better around the 4 month mark for me....I still want to throat punch people who tell me how much they loved being pregnant and was never sick lol Im tired and sore and feel fat as I cant bend over to put my shoes on haha I have hated being pregnant the entire time but I just keep telling myself it will be worth it in the end, and then roll my eyes lol.....best of luck!!!

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  42. I'm so late to this party but so glad I found this, now I don't feel so alone and terrible. I'm 12w5d and truly miserable. Up until a week ago I was sick ALL THE TIME. Now it's moved to just random times during the day, but that's a bright side right? On top of the sickness I've been so tired it's almost impossible to function. Of course, even though I'm exhausted, I still don't sleep well with the waking up 10 times a night. Now I've gotten a glorious sinus infection that I can't shake and is making things 100% worse. I have literally cried 6 times today, straight up ugly crying - not the sweet little shed a tear and move on - no, I'm a freaking mess. Just add that on to the ever growing list of breakdowns I've had. I love this baby, I can not wait until he or she is here, but this pregnancy stuff is for the birds. Its worth it, I keep telling myself that to get through, but I can not imagine doing this again. Thanks again for writing this, and thanks to all the mommies who have shared their experiences made me feel like I'm not alone.

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  43. I am so glad I found you all on here. I had tried for a year to get pregnant, waited all my life to say the words I am pregnant! I was so excited I couldn't wait, for as long as I can remember I just couldn't wait to be a mother! I am 31 and 10w pregnant and I CANNOT wait for this to be over! I am so sick, tired, constapated, nauseous, sore and down right pissed off all the time! The only time I am not nauseous is first thing when I wake up! I can't stand the smell of anything soap, washing liquid, the fridge, myself sometimes! This has all been such an effort, sometimes I don't want to get out of bed in the morning! This better get better I see women writing here who are 34 weeks... I can't do another 14 weeks like this! Right now it hard to love anything been this sick! I tell my OH everything how I am feeling so he can know this baby is the one and only!!

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  44. I, too, am so tired of being pregnant. I had my first child at 22 and it was a pretty normal experience. I'm 33 now and thought that I wanted to experience a planned pregnancy as a married woman. Well, I'm sick 24/7 and have to save the little energy I have to reply to work issues. I feel bad because sometimes I think about miscarriage; that's how sick I am. I can't imagine making it to 40 weeks. This is so unbearable. :-( I think my husband hates me because I cry all day, throw up all day and whine. He is trying to be patient but I see his frustration. I don't know if I'll make it. :'-(

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  45. Pssh whoever said it gets better is a damn LIE! i am currently 31 weeks and i HATE BEING PREGNANT I CANT DO THIS SHIT ANYMORE NEVER AGAIN! The random moments of complete uncomfortability in EVRY position ...the abuse to my poor ribs.. the nevver ending tossing in bed getting about 2hours of sleep a night! I want to have this baby like asap like NOW

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  46. Wow this thread is amazing, am just so glad not being alone on this emotional roller coaster.I am so sorry hearing about all of you and your joy rides but I've been riding myself. Am 28and 17wks 5days with my first, kinda worried because my ms started a little later for me it started like around ten weeks!!! So does this mean its gonna stick around longer? Although 1there has never been any vomiting, there has always been spitting and just dwn right queasiness. It has tapered off since the
    tenth week but each morning religiously am ill and after meals. My only working remedy is eating
    popsicle I have found that the combination of ice and sweet really helps, yeah I know it's not the most healthy thing but at this point relief trumps health, I have about 4-6 pops a day depending on if its mor ing or I just ate so...... hey... you should it really can't hurt. (Sighhh just want this to be over!!!)

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  47. Thank you for writing this!!

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  48. 14wk 3d this pregnancy feels like its never going to end. Can't wait to hold my baby then it will all seem worth it. Congratulation ladies.

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  49. i can't help but feel like this whole thing is a huge mistake. I'm going into week 11- I haven't been to work in over a month. I feel sick, I can't eat, I'm crying, complaining, sleeping is a challenge. I should have just fostered a child I honestly think about getting an abortion daily. To top it off this baby was super planned and we got it on the first try- i just need this first trimester to end, I'm so fucking unhappy. nothing help. I'm hope alone with netflix- thank god I can afford to miss work. I don't know how people go to work every day feeling like this. all the medications that work (zofran) case side effects so I can't take those. I've tried just about everything and nothing helps I'm just laying in bed waiting for the days to pass I've literally never been more unhappy I just want to live life again.

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  50. 27 weeks pregnant 4th baby I can't wait for this baby husband called me selfish for wanting the baby on Christmas due date is in late January......best advice for morning sickness is unisom or generic doxalymine succinate take before bed 1 usually works last all day till around 6 or 7. I don't know if morning sickness ever went away since I take 1 every night for sleep but on days I have forgot
    to take it would be sick next day. For energy check your iron I take a run pill every few days when I feel low down tired �� dizzy found out from nutrionist this whole time my prenatal vitamin never had iron in it�� I hope this helps some ppl and men will never understand the sacrifice we make to our bodies and babies!!!!!!!

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  51. I am 2 months pregnant and expecting my first. I laughed so hard when I read your number 5. I feel exactly the same about my boyfriend right now. Like I notice all these little things about him that I never noticed about him anymore and it annoys the monster out of me! Everyone keeps telling me it's just my out of control hormones making me feel this way but sometimes I beg to differ. Anyways I'm so glad I read this. It's nice to be able to relate to someone and not have to pretend to be feel all bubbly and cheerful because you're expected to feel this way by others.

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  52. I have been laughing my way through these posts and realise I'm not the only one who hates being pregnant! I'm 36 and 10w6d pregnant with my 4th! I have suffered constant migraines, nausea all the time, completely fatigued and I can't stand my boyfriend, everything he does drives me crazy or makes me angry at the moment so I do my best to avoid him. We had our first when I was 20 and my last when I was 29, I didn't plan for anymore children but here we are and I thought it would be OK, but it's really not. I get that I am blessed don't get me wrong but the symptoms are just messed up, and the boyfriend isn't handling it well taking everything personally!! My first 2 pregancies were simple, I struggled with my 3rd a little but nothing compared to this. I recently bought a lovely new car and now I can't drive it as I can't stand the smell of the thing, it makes me want to vomit just sitting in it!
    Only 29 weeks to go! Just hoping it all gets better soon! Good luck ladies!

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  53. Am so sick. This is my second pregnancy am just 6weeks and it's been hell. bloated nauseous,AND my 15month old baby won't let me rest .i hate hate hate this feeling.i feel like who sent me.Gosh to think I was thinking of having a big family this might be my last.how to others go through pregnancy and say I didn't even know I was pregnant.i really need that kind of experience cos now I feel like helll

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  54. As I lay here in bed reading these comments I feel so less guilty about hating being pregnant. I'm 33 yrs old and 31 weeks. I'm currently HATING it. I have such a negative attitude. I'm sick and tired of cleaning up after my messy husband. I hate the "advice" his Mother keeps pushing on me and I HATE how much weight I've gained on my legs! I can't even stand my best friend right now because she constantly stared at me last time I saw her...she was just amazed at how big I've gotten. I've gained 26lbs and I don't want to gain anymore! I was hormonal thr other day and went to get a haircut. Bad idea. Now I'm huge. Pregnant. Moody. And have bad hair! I remember when I was thin and attractive....now I'm too tired to even get out of bed. I don't know if I'll even enjoy being a mother. Sometimes I feel like I'll want my old life back. :(

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  55. I can completely relate to everyone on here. I had a miserable pregnancy at 24 with my son. Now, married to a different man, I was stupid enough to think that maybe this time would be different. Like many of you said, I had heard that all pregnancies are different. I thought maybe it wouldn't be so bad. I was wrong.

    In the beginning the first thing to hit was the extreme fatigue. I felt like I was drugged 24/7. Then, I started to get sick. At first, eating was the only thing that helped. Eating carbs around the clock would keep the nausea at bay. I was eating weird stuff, too. Mostly unhealthy, salty carbs. One morning I had salt and vinegar chips for breakfast. I threw that up. Then, the severe "morning" sickness that lasted all day and night kicked in. Eating carbs no longer made a damn bit of difference. I couldn't even hold my spit down. Had to get meds through an IV. Then the meds caused the worst bloating and constipation.

    Every single smell would make me vomit. The smell of shampoo, soap, food, the grocery store, gasoline, perfume, cologne, deodorant, EVERYTHING. Stress made me vomit. Crying made me vomit. I even peed myself while vomiting from the force of it. Lovely.

    Next, I started getting these insane nipples. What I like to call pancake nipples. They are freakishly huge and dark. I used to have cute little nipples. Then, I nursed my first son. Then, my boobs were small and saggy. Now, they're huge and saggy. With pepperoni/pancake nipples. Not cute.

    Then, I ended up with a nasty and incredibly painful varicose vein next to my labia. What the hell?!? Nobody told me that this was even a possibility. I have to wear this dumb ass jock strap looking device just so I can bear to stand and walk. It hurts like a bitch, and it looks like a nasty fat worm. It better go away after I have the baby!

    Now, I'm dizzy all the time. I have no motivation. I could (unhappily) stay in bed all damn day and cry.

    I miss my body. I miss having a freaking margarita. A nice cold beer. Some sushi.

    I get pissed off thinking about all of the holidays that I was the only one sober for this year. My husband's Birthday. Hallloween. My Birthday. Thanksgiving. Christmas. New Freaking Years Eve. And next will be Valentine's day.

    I feel like a beached whale. I can't stand to look at myself in the mirror.

    I watch from my miserable spot on the uncomfortable couch while my husband happily goes for his daily run to enjoy the nice weather. He asked me today, "Do you want to go for a walk?" Yeah. Right. I would love to waddle around, and feel the wonderful feeling of intense burning and throbbing of my varicose veins. I would love to feel dizzy in the middle of a track where there's nowhere to sit down. I would love the big possibility of vomiting in public. Just give me a few hours to find some shit to wear that still actually fits me. Because I have soooo much energy after being up all night these last several weeks peeing every hour and getting kicked all night from the inside.

    I know I sound like a bitch. I know I should be grateful and excited. But I don't feel grateful and excited. I feel resentful and depressed. I hate that my life has already changed drastically, and his goes right on as normal.

    I hate that his will continue to go right on as normal.

    I have a fantastic c-section to look forward to. My first baby was delivered via c-section, and it was a freaking nightmare. To top it off, we have stairs, and a teeny tiny condo. We can't afford to move right now. We also have no family close by. Where the hell am I going to put the baby and all its stuff? How am I going to get around? I feel like this was all a huge mistake. I have no idea what the hell I was thinking.

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    1. AnonymousJune 16, 2016

      I understand your pain honey. I hope you are doing a little better now. I just got back from the hospital after a 30 hr stay. I am 31 years old and 14 weeks and 4 days pregnant with my first. I hate this it is terrible. My boobs hurt so freaking bad I can't wear a bra. My ribs are expanding and feel like they are going to crack. I'm constipated and my back feels like it is being cut with a freaking chainsaw. Oh! And to top it off I've lost all feeling in my left fucking leg..I can barely walk without feeling like I'm going to topple over. Wtf was I thinking? I'm starting to resent being pregnant my hubby even asked me do I still want the baby and if I'm happy? I was so freaking scared I was having a stroke...i thought I had extreme chest pains and the dragging of my left foot made me to believe I was..hence why we went to the er. They ran all types of tests on me.. Ekg...blood pressure..ct scan..chest x Ray..spinal tap ( took fluid from my spine) and everything has come back negative! So we'd why can I barely walk? I've been told this baby must be sitting on a nerve causing numbness,weakness, and tingling in my lower body! Wtf! I wouldn't have gotten pregnant if I knew this was going happen to me! I like being an independent woman! They prescribed me a walker and told me to start physical therapy...I hate this..my hubby keeps telling me oh..everything is going to be ok you can still walk kind of..your tests are negative they didn't say you have multiple sclerosis or Lou Gehrig disease so chill out..everybody is telling me it will be ok meanwhile my ability to fucking walk has been taken from me. I just feel so helpless..I've stopped eating as much because I don't have an appetite and I know I still have a baby growing inside of me..Im sorry ladies if I sound so negative at least you guys can still walk thank you for listening..I'm going to go cry my eyes out :-(

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  56. Fuck this, why? I hate everyone arou d me specially my husband, which I really just want to remove from my life, worst i was a little over my weight when I got pregnant and only 10 weeks and feel like a pig everywhere, just want to almost die. I was exited before but I am even regreting doing it. No nausea a little tired but I am always tired. Have no freedom and cant control my anger. Fuck my mother in law telling me how beautiful it is and how I should act. Really? Leave me the fuck alone. I am really venting, cause if this is it I am never doing it.... not sorry for all the hate. FML

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  57. 14 weeks and miserable. My furst pregnancy went almost perfectly. This time around i Feel like it's Satan's spawn in there. Can't sleep from constant pain and they've taken my only salvation boiling hot baths away :( everything pisses me off, even the way my hubs smells. I puke all day every day, had to quit my job as i can barely function. Now I feel trapped and miserable and so unhappy. Regretting this second pregnancy more than anything. Which is sad as it took 5 years to conceive again. I feel like a selfish whiny brat and wasn't too punch all these people and their it'll get better comments and advice. Sorry for the vent i just can't take it any more

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  58. Hello ladies. I am so happy to know that I am not alone. I am only 4 weeks pregnant with my first child but I'm over it. I have around the clock "morning sickness", I'm exhausted, no energy and out of breath. Usually I'm up early and on the go. I workout 4 days a week and have a great social life but for the last 2 weeks all I want to do is lay in bed. The only relief I get is from eating lemon ices. I feel terrible because my husband constantly thanks me for having his baby but in all honesty, I don't want to be pregnant and I really think this may be my only one. I can't imagine the next 36 weeks ahead. I hope this is just for the 1st trimester. We haven't told anyone about the pregnancy just yet and the thought of saying "I'm pregnant!", makes me sick, literally I gag. I'm so happy I have a place to vent without judgement. Thank you.

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  59. Thank you so much for posting this. I am 30 weeks pregnant and I hate being pregnant. This is my first and most likely only baby. I've gained 30 lbs already which infuriates me. And I swear 10 has gone to my face and 10 to my arms. Ugh. And I'm pretty sure I'm going to kill my husband by week 40. He's a moron and drives me insane at this point. And I feel same way about women that "love their pregnancy'. I want to tell them to f*** off and that they are liars. How could anyone enjoy this?!?! I hear postpartum is even worse. Oh the joys. I'm grateful I'm going to have a baby and hope he is healthy but never again will I go through this crap.

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  60. AnonymousMay 25, 2016

    I enjoyed reading all of your posts it really makes me feel better about this whole pregnancy thing...im 18 weeks pregnant and cam barely sleep right almost every position hurts i do get somewhat comfortable on my side but than i wake up 5 to 10 times a night just to pee and ill feel that my shoulder is hurting from laying on my side...im always hungry but cant stand most of the foods at the grocery store i mainly want take out food which is awful i know but thats what i want and cant help it!!! I use to eat pretty clean before pregnancy so im not loving how i eat now ive already gained 13 pounds & counting i get tired so quickly i will do laundry and once im done ill feel like ive ran a marathon:/...this is my second pregnancy and i must say my first pregnancy was so easy!! I didnt go through anything that im going through with this pregnancy! My son is 5 so its been awhile since i have been pregnant and i cant stand it i look like a balloon already.

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  61. AnonymousMay 28, 2016

    Hate hate hate this 4th pregnancy which was an accident nothing seems to make me happy

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  62. AnonymousJune 14, 2016

    I'm 36 and was initially excited that I was pregnan . I was fine until week 6. Then it went all downhill from there. Daily nausea, vomiting, constipation, hungry but unable to eat. I think everyone thinks I'm faking. But I genuinely feel sick almost all the time. I think this will be my first and may pregnancy because there is no way I can go through this again.

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